So I ended up asking him about work, if there was a particular reason he was looking for a new job. He said that everything was fine he just wanted to see if there was something better available. He ended up looking 3 different times throughout the day for what ended up being about 2.5 hours looking for jobs.
In the middle of the day I casually brought up "the three dispatchers" he use to talk about regularly, I explained there was a guy he didn't like, and then 1 guy and 1 woman who would both give him the runs he wanted, but I couldn't remember their names. So he gives me the two guys names and then names two girls I hasn't heard of I told him I didn't recognize those names, he mentioned another name and I told him I thought she had been a trainer, and she had been. So no mention of the name I was looking for, so I let it go.
Later in the day I played it off and was like "oh yea, didn't the lady that gave you the runs you wanted, didn't her name start with a 'B',Bonnie, or Bonita...that's it." His tone changed and his response was "she doesn't work there anymore, and why are you trippin' why are you asking about the dispatchers?" I ended the conversation.
I was not trippin', I was calm as day, but apparently he was!
I am about 90% sure that my gut is accurate in thinking she works with him, and that the info I have based on her cell number is accurate. If so, she is 27 years older then my WH and the thought makes me gag. Now I don't know if she no longer works for the company but I am feeling more and more like I need to verify if she does or doesn't.
It's crazy, since my "ah ha" moment about her working with him, I have been able to sleep better.
He spoke with his mom this week about getting a job at a different company. I am still not too sure about the looking for jobs thing.