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noglamour posted 10/19/2013 11:17 AM

Today I was on Facebook and BS send me a message on FB and asked who I was chatting with.

I didnt know what she was talking about since I was not chatting and my chat is actually turned off. I was on Facebook though looking at a family member's recently posted pictures.

She does have the password to my Facebook account. Since Facebook has been a problem with us, I decided just to delete the account.

Card posted 10/19/2013 11:28 AM

Bravo!

I found it wasn't just about giving passwords to my wife. It was about eliminating any activity that had an ability to trigger her.

Great decision!

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 10/19/2013 11:34 AM

If I sent my H a message asking who he was chatting with and he deleted his account, I would think he had something to hide.

Gottagetthrough posted 10/19/2013 11:37 AM

I agree, Bravo! Took a trigger out of the picture entirely.

if your spouse has questions, I think you can re activate a fb account and she will still be able to see your activity (correct me if im wrong)

good for you.

Card posted 10/19/2013 12:28 PM

If I sent my H a message asking who he was chatting with and he deleted his account, I would think he had something to hide.

I can see this..... It would definitely trigger most BS's

It would definitely be an issue if you couldn't re-activate the facebook account. But facebook doesn't actually delete anything, you just make the account inactive and as long as you have the password you can re-activate it anytime.

PrincessPeach06 posted 10/19/2013 13:39 PM

Both H and I deleted our accounts and got a joint one. At first it was confusing to friends/family but now it's fine and I enjoy not having to worry about who he might be friends with or might message him cause it goes to both of us! Facebook was how he chatted with OW.

PrincessPeach06 posted 10/19/2013 13:41 PM

But facebook doesn't actually delete anything, you just make the account inactive and as long as you have the password you can re-activate it anytime.

You can delete forever but it takes 2 weeks and if you log in you have to wait another 2 weeks. We just googled "delete Facebook account for good".

noglamour posted 10/19/2013 22:08 PM

Thank you! It feels great not to have it anymore. It's not something I need and my marriage is more important than Facebook.

@ThoughtIKnewYa
My BS has my password and has checked it before. The password is the same and she can reactivate it if thinks she needs to.

Card posted 10/20/2013 12:47 PM


But facebook doesn't actually delete anything, you just make the account inactive and as long as you have the password you can re-activate it anytime.

You can delete forever but it takes 2 weeks and if you log in you have to wait another 2 weeks. We just googled "delete Facebook account for good".

PP, it still doesn't delete 'forever'. You can still retrieve it forever with the password!


PrincessPeach06 posted 10/20/2013 13:10 PM

But facebook doesn't actually delete anything, you just make the account inactive and as long as you have the password you can re-activate it anytime.
You can delete forever but it takes 2 weeks and if you log in you have to wait another 2 weeks. We just googled "delete Facebook account for good".

PP, it still doesn't delete 'forever'. You can still retrieve it forever with the password!

Not true :) and for the record I tried to log in with my old account and H's and was told it doesn't recognize the email address(es)

https://m.facebook.com/help/www/224562897555674

Patchy posted 10/20/2013 22:22 PM

I think that's great. However the frustrating thing for me was no matter how many times I checked my husband's FB page after Dday 1 (had his password) and even if he, quote, "HAD no FB page" end quote, it didn't matter. He had a fake one under some girl's name and so did the OW. He used his cell phone to message her all he wanted on their fake accounts.

For that reason and the fact that she wouldn't leave a Facebook group I was in, and because so many of my FB friends know her which just makes me feel icky when I see a post from them ... I just hate Facebook and quit posting.

I didn't delete my account yet. I still want to be able to interact with my kids and anyone else who says "Hey did you see my post?" And if its interesting enough I can go on if I choose. But so far I'm not really missing it.

I do, however, wish he would just delete his account. Ain't gonna happen though. He's a social butterfly. Posts quite often.

I'm currently don't have a reason to be suspicious though. He's done enough to prove that.

I think.

20WrongsVs1 posted 10/21/2013 09:40 AM

I believe you when you say you deleted it because your M is more important than FB, and applaud you for that!

How did BW react? Deleting it without discussing it with her first could be interpreted as a passive-aggressive move. Clearly some of the BSs in this thread jumped to even worse assumptions. Not accusing you of such, just wondering how your decision landed with BW. As WSs we need to be careful in making unilateral decisions for the good of the M, because they don't always have the outcome we'd aimed for :)

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