Taking time apart" can be a red flag when a WS is still cheating and trying to choose which of you to stay with.
I totally understand that this is the thought, and that went through my mind. He is very similar to my father in the sense the he is a very internal person. I spoke to my dad and he even suggested that maybe he take time to himself and just sort him self out. I do not in any way think that this is an attempt to "choose" which one he wants to be with. I don't fully trust that he may not see her during this, but I do believe that is not his reason. The amount of guilt that he has expressed through all of this is not fake and I do know that.
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I hear you. As I said above, especially after speaking with my dad, I really understand that some people have to tackle their demons alone. At this point, he is overcome with guilt and embarrassment. Until he is able to step past those initial feelings, there is no growth we can do. Anything I say or he says gets trumped by those feelings. He is taking his time to deal with them, work on moving on to other feelings, and find a place where he can begin to forgive himself and be prepared to build the relationship. I realize this sort of thing is not supposed to happen in the "easy" part of the relationship, but the fact of the matter is, no matter what point in the relationship, it isn't supposed to happen. To a degree, if this is something we can over come during the "easy" parts, I feel like it could help to build an amazing and strong rest of the relationship. But I also realize that taking time apart could end everything too.
I am not sitting and waiting, it's still too early for any decision on what I am going to do. But for right now, I cannot help to be slightly hopeful that this is the situation he needs to really look inside of him self and begin to work on what he needs to work on to be a better version of himself, if not for our relationship, at least for himself.