Just call me Wonder
Things have been going super. Really great. Lots of talking, openness, good times, new memories.
But i do still trigger( of course I do it's only been three months)- and I share with him when I do.
But this morning, I went down the rabbit hole with one tiny little trigger.
Let me explain...
He has been very open with his passwords, phone, etc.
H has a friend- lets call him Keith. Keith was the "excuse"friend. I cringe when i think about how i nicknamed "keith" his girlfrend because they talked so much. But keith was his excuse- As in "I'm going to Keith's house" or "I just need to call Keith." When he was really with OW. My favorite was "Keith's basement doesn't get service so Ill be out if contact for awhile." Ass.
After Dday, I know that Keith was unaware and actually pretty upset with my H when he found out about the A. And he let my H know it.
They have since been mending things and im glad- Keith is a good friend. But this morning, on WHs phone there was a text from Keith. It just said "home from mass"
Keith travels between our town and his family's home in Massachusetts often for work, etc.
So- I just thought it was weird that he would text to my H that he was home. What are they girlfriends? BOOM! Automatically I envisioned him changing her contact number in his phone to read "Keith" and all of "Keith's" texts were actually from her, all the phone calls, etc etc. I created this entire ruse in my head at 7 am this morning.
I shared it with H, and he was great- gave me his phone, let me see the number, let me call Keith (sorry for the wake up call dude)... And basically reassured me that I have access to any and all communications- he even offered to answer his calls on speaker from now on. It meant the world to me. He did not laugh at my overreaction, he did not scoff or get defensive. He said he was so sorry that his actions made me feel this way.
We were able to really discuss some of my triggers and I was able to explain how I can't really control them and I HATE the way my mind works sometimes. He was incredible about it.
I am wary of getting too comfortable- but it has been a great couple of days and I am just glad he continues to do just the right thing.
He is really working on this. :)
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017