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topperoff22 posted 10/19/2013 13:43 PM

Just forget it! GRRRRRRRRR!!!!

[This message edited by topperoff22 at 8:58 AM, October 20th (Sunday)]

wifehad5 posted 10/19/2013 15:02 PM

topperoff,

Please review the description of this forum. No name calling please

topperoff22 posted 10/19/2013 15:14 PM

You are kidding right? After what has been allowed in this forum...including trashing WHs in this forum you are scolding me? Really?

topperoff22 posted 10/19/2013 15:37 PM

OK. I changed it so it doesn't call him a bad name anymore but she's still disgusting.

[This message edited by topperoff22 at 4:36 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]

wifehad5 posted 10/19/2013 16:52 PM

I'm not kidding. We don't allow venting or name calling or trashing in the Reconciliation Forum. If you want to vent, please do so in General or Just Found Out. It's welcomed there.

If you see any trashing in the Reconciliation forum, let one of us know so we can fix it.

topperoff22 posted 10/19/2013 17:43 PM

I will be sure to tell you because I have indeed seen it here. SO I have been admonished. Now, not only am I having a shit day but now I feel like a third grader. Anyway to delete my post? Or move it?

[This message edited by topperoff22 at 5:49 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]

Jrazz posted 10/19/2013 18:01 PM

Hey topper - I remember going through what you are right now.

I was so hurt and pissed, and to cap things off I felt like I was getting in trouble HERE, the place I was supposed to be able to run to for comfort.

I broke more than a few guidelines, and I even got tossed out of Wayward for being rude in a response post.

At the time, I was beyond pissed and embarrassed. It literally took a year of stepping outside myself to see that I was very raw and wound tightly, and was not paying attention to the house that I was visiting and the environment they were trying to create.

The governance here isn't perfect by any means, but we try to keep people inside the guidelines so that they don't get abused in a BIG way later down the line.

I completely know how you feel about getting flagged while posting. Like I said, I was collecting them like crazy in the beginning and I even asked to be deactivated a couple times.

Fortunately, the people who had been in my shoes years prior to my DDay knew I just needed to cool off.

I'm not going to tell you to cool off. I know that's like a slap in the face with all the pain and fear you're experiencing right now. Just please believe me when I tell you that the staff tries to maintain the rules to the best of their ability so that everyone has the same opportunity to heal and grow here.

If you wanna vent hardcore, let's take it over to General and I will be right there with you. My specialty is throwing folding chairs.

[This message edited by Jrazz at 6:01 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]

wifehad5 posted 10/19/2013 18:25 PM

Moved it from Reconciliation to General for you

[This message edited by SI Staff at 5:17 AM, October 20th (Sunday)]

topperoff22 posted 10/19/2013 18:51 PM

Nah....no hardcore complaining today.

suposd2btheonly1 posted 10/19/2013 21:56 PM

Our Ddays are close, I feel the exact same way. I really hope it gets better from here. A lot of times Im not optimistic at all, others I am.

Youre not alone in your ways of thinking

topperoff22 posted 10/19/2013 22:46 PM

Our Ddays are close, I feel the exact same way. I really hope it gets better from here. A lot of times Im not optimistic at all, others I am.
Youre not alone in your ways of thinking
Thank you and thinking of you.

Garnet posted 10/19/2013 22:55 PM

Well maybe it's me but.......I think this is general NOT RECONCILE?? Let me know if I'm wrong???

Jrazz posted 10/20/2013 00:54 AM

Garnet, it got moved.

topperoff22 posted 10/20/2013 08:58 AM

Excuse me can someone just remove this...all I have gotten on it are complaints about where it is and NOT ONE DAMN bit of advice on it. HOW DO YOU DELETE POSTS OFF OF HERE. WHat an unhelpful group at times. At times...but not always!

topperoff22 posted 10/20/2013 19:45 PM

Ignore the anger in all of this if anyone sees it. I'm glad there were questions about it and that I edited things and it was moved from reconciliation. It had too much anger in it and I actually regret how it was worded. I have started to answer my own question anyhow. Thanks for helping me, mods, you are appreciated.

topperoff22 posted 10/20/2013 19:45 PM

Ignore the anger in all of this if anyone sees it. I'm glad there were questions about it and that I edited things and it was moved from reconciliation. It had too much anger in it and I actually regret how it was worded. I have started to answer my own question anyhow. Thanks for helping me, mods, you are appreciated.

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