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User Topic: You make me happy
painfulpast
♀ 41038
Member # 41038
Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's what my husband said to me today, out of nowhere. I was sitting on the bed watching a tv show. He came it and sat on the bench at the foot of the bed to put his shoes and socks on. I didn't even notice he was looking at me, and I heard "you make me happy."

It's moments like this that I'm so glad I stayed. I couldn't tell you 2 years ago why I stayed. Today I can - because he makes me happy too.


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1898 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
Skan
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5255 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
eachdayisvictory
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Member # 40462
Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Halleluiah. So good to hear. Real remorse is possible, and healing too.

Thanks for this.


me, BW: 34
FWH: 35
Dday: Feb 2013
LTA for 2+years
children: 2 boys age 3 and 6
Reconciling

Posts: 395 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nova Scotia, Canada
HardenMyHeart
♂ 15902
Member # 15902
Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


Posts: 5764 | Registered: Aug 2007
AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2693 | Registered: Aug 2012
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Posts: 36820 | Registered: Mar 2011
painfulpast
♀ 41038
Member # 41038
Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

times 100! There is no one that can make me feel as happy as my H.

He has been, as many say, a different man since the A. It's a long, sordid story (aren't they all???) but he has changed so much. He is now everything I've ever dreamt of in a husband. I used to resent that fact too, wondering why I had to go through so much pain to get to this place. Now? Now I just appreciate the husband I have.

I could spend all my time looking backwards, but after nearly 3 years, it feels so good to live in the present.

To anyone just starting out - getting here can be so hard, so challenging. You may feel like giving up, and maybe that's the right answer for some. For those that stick it out, there could be a very happy marriage on the other side.

Some will say 'once a cheater, always a cheater'. That isn't true. Some really learn from their mistakes. They see what is really important to them, and begin to appreciate the life they have.


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1898 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
JustDesserts
♂ 39665
Member # 39665
Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like reading threads like this. A lot!


2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 50. Her: BW, 49. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.

Posts: 403 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for posting this.

All of us still struggling need to hear this. It helps to keep the hope alive.

It reminds us of what we are struggling for.

So happy that you both have achieved this.


"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced!


Posts: 1599 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
toughernow
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you painfulpast.

This has given me renewed hope after a long and sleepless night.


BS (Me) - 47
WS(Him) -48

Married 23 years - together for 29 years


DDay - June 10th 2012 then TT'd-June 2012 - July 2012 (and beyond????)
2 amazing children

"Understanding love is one of the hardest things in life." - Fred Rogers


Posts: 98 | Registered: Oct 2013
mellie99
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Member # 39712
Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for sharing this; posts like this give me hope and encouragement that maybe I'm doing the right thing...


Me: BW (32)
Him: WS (31)-Multiple ONS
Married: 1/3/05 Together since 5/2002
D-Day #1-3/2009 (4 years after the fact)
D-Day #2 3/2013(he confessed to 3 more ONS, 1 the month I found out I was pregnant)

Posts: 66 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a nice post! Thank you.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

Posts: 1904 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: UK
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