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User Topic: Support from the Non-married
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Member # 41024
Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please know that this is not meant to discount the words from those that are married. I appreciate and consider all advice and support I have received. The SI community has made things a lot more tolerable the past few days.

We are not married, nor do we live together. I feel that this causes some people to simply say, welp! move on! I feel like just because there isn't something on paper forcing us together doesn't mean I should ignore and give up on the relationship. I love this man. He loves me. Clearly we had some underlying issues, but our daily relationship was the happiest time of my life. I wanted to, and if we can move forward a bit, still want to marry this man.
The fact is, there are plenty of people on here that are in marriages, have children, live together, and have situations much more extreme and dyer than mine.

Would really love some words, advice, or related feelings from those of you that are NOT married, or NOT living together, but still trying...

Patience is the key to joy

Posts: 49 | Registered: Oct 2013
♂ 15162
Member # 15162
Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping this since I don't fit what you're looking for. There are many couples who do

FBH - 45
FWW - 46 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 10 & 15

The people you do your life with shape the life you live

Posts: 46607 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Trying2013))) Not in your situation, but just wanted to let you know you have been heard. It is very slow on the weekends and it seems to be super slow this weekend. Hang in there!

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 13103 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
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Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex and I were together for 8 years before we were married. Honestly, the only thing that changed was that it was more difficult and expensive logistically to divorce than it would have been to break up. Emotionally, it would have sucked just as badly.

Posts: 2922 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
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