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User Topic: Omg...save me from lunacy!!!
Phoenix1
♀ 38928
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our dissolution was granted THIS morning. POS agreed to everything in court. Then I get this text a few minutes ago: "I changed my mind and will advise the court on Monday that I will be filing for a divorce."

He has COMPLETELY lost his mind! Just when I thought I had reached the light at the end of the tunnel!!! Holy shit!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1257 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can he even do that?! Let's hope he's just trying to wind you up. I think the judge would be extremely angry if XPOS tries this. While the papers aren't completed, the court has ruled. XPOS is SOL.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1950 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If the dissolution was granted and signed, the deal is done. He has to follow the rules of the state. In my state changes cannot be made for years unless something drastic has changed.

He is just being his crazy self. Ignore and carry on,

And congrats for loosing the anchor.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2770 | Registered: Jan 2010
devistatedmom
♀ 24961
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's blowing smoke, trying to get a reaction from you. He can't do jack.

Have another wine, and ignore.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5577 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The hell?!? D. Lusional.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 26151 | Registered: Aug 2011
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Huh??? WTF.

How does he think that *he* can now file for divorce.....when the freaking marriage has been dissolved as of today? I seriously don't.get.it. How does he think that he can now file for divorce? It was ALREADY filed and is now done.

I would be very hard-pressed to not respond and ask "changed your mind about....WHAT?"....just to get a glimpse into his thought process.

I find it highly unlikely that this guy is going to get a *do-over*. Just *smh*......


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8181 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
gma56
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How does he think that *he* can now file for divorce.....when the freaking marriage has been dissolved as of today? I seriously don't.get.it. How does he think that he can now file for divorce? It was ALREADY filed and is now done
That is exactly what I was thinking. How can you divorce if the marriage has been dissolved ?
I agree relax and ignore until you hear something different from your attorney.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
breakingpoint
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is probably panicking that there is no more reasons to be in contact, keeping the drama going, etc. So he is just grabbing at anything to insert himself into your life.

Posts: 115 | Registered: Oct 2013
peridot
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ignore him and go on. He's not worthy of a response.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4801 | Registered: Feb 2008
Phoenix1
♀ 38928
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, October 19th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have had NC since August, but I am SO tempted to respond back with "go for it" and attach a pic of him, OW3, and OC that he is still hiding (though he is currently living with) he doesn't know I have. After all, I told him I would originally file for divorce on grounds of adultery if he didn't play nice with a dissolution. The pic would render him speechless (I live in a fault or no fault state).

*sigh* Guess I will just give crickets, but this really pisses me off! Perhaps when he calls the court on Monday he will realize he can't have a "do over." Even filing an appeal, for which there are no grounds, has a fucking legal process, you stupid, fucking moron!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1257 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
SBB
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Default  Posted: 6:18 AM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NO RESPONSE. If he can, he will but it doesn't sound like he can so dude has simple gone car-ayzay.

Did you both sign something today? It might be different in the US but here we sign everything before court and the court just formalises it.

But seriously, how awesome would it be to be able to divorce them twice in one go?


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5655 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did you both sign something today? It might be different in the US but here we sign everything before court and the court just formalises it.

No, we don't sign anything here as all documents are signed upon filing. The judge rules as to whether it is fair and equitable in the eyes of the court (which he did), and asks both parties if they agree with and understand all consequences of the settlement, to which we both responded we did. Then we receive the actual signed documents in 2-3 weeks. This hearing was conducted in front of a magistrate as it was considered a rubber stamp hearing. The magistrate has full judicial authority to rule on the dissolution, but it must be signed by the actual judge assigned to the case (and that is just procedural as the magistrate's ruling is always accepted).

Geez. Why can't the moron go back under the rock from which he slithered and leave.me.alone!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1257 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He will have serious credibility problems testifying under oath that he agrees he understands the terms and conditions on Friday then ringing up the court on Monday and changing his mind.

In my thinking, he has a snowball's chance in hell. I would pop some popcorn and settle back to watch the show. He is going to do himself major damage in the eyes of the court.

Cat

[This message edited by Catwoman at 12:04 PM, October 20th (Sunday)]


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

Posts: 29710 | Registered: Apr 2003 | From: Massachusetts
StepAside
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I changed my mind and will advise the court on Monday that I will be filing for a divorce."

Oh Omnipotent One, you made a funny!

Oh my...let me wipe away this tear...whew!


Me 48yrs, king of douchebagastan- 50yrs STD infected bankrupt NPD sociopathic drunk thief
countless A's, he is a predator that targets losers like himself
Last Dday 04/12/2010-Divorcing if/when his cumdumpsters lend him some $ or balls to file

Posts: 1522 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Ingersoll Ontario
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, October 20th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he has lost his ever loving mind.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3477 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 3:29 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe he sent the message to the wrong wife Maybe it was meant for OW upteen?


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1376 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Soooo...........

Is there an update?

Seriously....this is funnier than most of the sitcoms on TV.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6602 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah...crazy doesn't begin to describe that. It takes a special level of crazy to tell your now EX-WIFE that you're filing for divorce.


My ex is threatening to take me back to court to change the orders he agreed to in court and was finalized just ONE month ago. ...and no there have been no big changes in that short amount of time. He actually got a small raise! The only change has been his understanding of how poorly he is managing his finances (of course without understanding that HE is the one screwing himself over with piss-poor choices).

At this point I know better than to worry about what idiotic mess he can brainstorm.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Phoenix1
♀ 38928
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there an update?

Nothing as of yet, but I will be watching the case online for any heads up as it is posted there long before anything goes in the mail.

I did some checking though, and IF he wants to appeal it for whatever stupid reason he comes up with in his deluded brain, he only has 30 days to file it. It also states specifically that appealing is both very time consuming and expensive (minimum of two years) so everyone is warned to think long and hard before going down that road, and to obtain legal advice first. XPOS doesn't have a pot to piss in, so I am not thinking that is a viable option for him.

I will, of course, keep everyone here posted on this latest round of ridiculousness, if for no other reason than to give you a good laugh at his expense...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1257 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All I know is that we're going to need a nickname for this genius.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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