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Phoenix1 posted 10/19/2013 19:43 PM

Our dissolution was granted THIS morning. POS agreed to everything in court. Then I get this text a few minutes ago: "I changed my mind and will advise the court on Monday that I will be filing for a divorce."

He has COMPLETELY lost his mind! Just when I thought I had reached the light at the end of the tunnel!!! Holy shit!

Gemini71 posted 10/19/2013 19:56 PM

Can he even do that?! Let's hope he's just trying to wind you up. I think the judge would be extremely angry if XPOS tries this. While the papers aren't completed, the court has ruled. XPOS is SOL.

Chrysalis123 posted 10/19/2013 19:59 PM

If the dissolution was granted and signed, the deal is done. He has to follow the rules of the state. In my state changes cannot be made for years unless something drastic has changed.

He is just being his crazy self. Ignore and carry on,

And congrats for loosing the anchor.

devistatedmom posted 10/19/2013 20:55 PM

He's blowing smoke, trying to get a reaction from you. He can't do jack.

Have another wine, and ignore.

nowiknow23 posted 10/19/2013 21:02 PM

The hell?!? D. Lusional.

gonnabe2016 posted 10/19/2013 21:08 PM

Huh??? WTF.

How does he think that *he* can now file for divorce.....when the freaking marriage has been dissolved as of today? I seriously don't.get.it. How does he think that he can now file for divorce? It was ALREADY filed and is now done.

I would be very hard-pressed to not respond and ask "changed your mind about....WHAT?"....just to get a glimpse into his thought process.

I find it highly unlikely that this guy is going to get a *do-over*. Just *smh*......

gma56 posted 10/19/2013 21:17 PM

How does he think that *he* can now file for divorce.....when the freaking marriage has been dissolved as of today? I seriously don't.get.it. How does he think that he can now file for divorce? It was ALREADY filed and is now done
That is exactly what I was thinking. How can you divorce if the marriage has been dissolved ?
I agree relax and ignore until you hear something different from your attorney.

breakingpoint posted 10/19/2013 21:46 PM

He is probably panicking that there is no more reasons to be in contact, keeping the drama going, etc. So he is just grabbing at anything to insert himself into your life.

peridot posted 10/19/2013 21:47 PM

Ignore him and go on. He's not worthy of a response.

Phoenix1 posted 10/19/2013 22:07 PM

I have had NC since August, but I am SO tempted to respond back with "go for it" and attach a pic of him, OW3, and OC that he is still hiding (though he is currently living with) he doesn't know I have. After all, I told him I would originally file for divorce on grounds of adultery if he didn't play nice with a dissolution. The pic would render him speechless (I live in a fault or no fault state).

*sigh* Guess I will just give crickets, but this really pisses me off! Perhaps when he calls the court on Monday he will realize he can't have a "do over." Even filing an appeal, for which there are no grounds, has a fucking legal process, you stupid, fucking moron!

SBB posted 10/20/2013 06:18 AM

NO RESPONSE. If he can, he will but it doesn't sound like he can so dude has simple gone car-ayzay.

Did you both sign something today? It might be different in the US but here we sign everything before court and the court just formalises it.

But seriously, how awesome would it be to be able to divorce them twice in one go?

Phoenix1 posted 10/20/2013 11:54 AM

Did you both sign something today? It might be different in the US but here we sign everything before court and the court just formalises it.

No, we don't sign anything here as all documents are signed upon filing. The judge rules as to whether it is fair and equitable in the eyes of the court (which he did), and asks both parties if they agree with and understand all consequences of the settlement, to which we both responded we did. Then we receive the actual signed documents in 2-3 weeks. This hearing was conducted in front of a magistrate as it was considered a rubber stamp hearing. The magistrate has full judicial authority to rule on the dissolution, but it must be signed by the actual judge assigned to the case (and that is just procedural as the magistrate's ruling is always accepted).

Geez. Why can't the moron go back under the rock from which he slithered and leave.me.alone!

Catwoman posted 10/20/2013 12:03 PM

He will have serious credibility problems testifying under oath that he agrees he understands the terms and conditions on Friday then ringing up the court on Monday and changing his mind.

In my thinking, he has a snowball's chance in hell. I would pop some popcorn and settle back to watch the show. He is going to do himself major damage in the eyes of the court.

Cat

[This message edited by Catwoman at 12:04 PM, October 20th (Sunday)]

StepAside posted 10/20/2013 15:42 PM

"I changed my mind and will advise the court on Monday that I will be filing for a divorce."

Oh Omnipotent One, you made a funny!

Oh my...let me wipe away this tear...whew!

sparkysable posted 10/20/2013 15:57 PM

he has lost his ever loving mind.

Bluebird26 posted 10/21/2013 03:29 AM

Maybe he sent the message to the wrong wife Maybe it was meant for OW upteen?

k94ever posted 10/21/2013 13:57 PM

Soooo...........

Is there an update?

Seriously....this is funnier than most of the sitcoms on TV.

k9

Housefulloflove posted 10/21/2013 16:05 PM

Yeah...crazy doesn't begin to describe that. It takes a special level of crazy to tell your now EX-WIFE that you're filing for divorce.


My ex is threatening to take me back to court to change the orders he agreed to in court and was finalized just ONE month ago. ...and no there have been no big changes in that short amount of time. He actually got a small raise! The only change has been his understanding of how poorly he is managing his finances (of course without understanding that HE is the one screwing himself over with piss-poor choices).

At this point I know better than to worry about what idiotic mess he can brainstorm.

Phoenix1 posted 10/21/2013 18:09 PM

Is there an update?

Nothing as of yet, but I will be watching the case online for any heads up as it is posted there long before anything goes in the mail.

I did some checking though, and IF he wants to appeal it for whatever stupid reason he comes up with in his deluded brain, he only has 30 days to file it. It also states specifically that appealing is both very time consuming and expensive (minimum of two years) so everyone is warned to think long and hard before going down that road, and to obtain legal advice first. XPOS doesn't have a pot to piss in, so I am not thinking that is a viable option for him.

I will, of course, keep everyone here posted on this latest round of ridiculousness, if for no other reason than to give you a good laugh at his expense...

nowiknow23 posted 10/21/2013 19:02 PM

All I know is that we're going to need a nickname for this genius.

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