I'm sorry for the added pain that this brings.
There is suspicion that Xperv may have an OC. Of course he is adamant that he does not, but he is adamant about many things! (sarcasm)
There is also rumor that he ran out and had a vasectomy soon after DS was conceived and there was a period of time when he declared himself "completely unavailable" to us. ETA the people who told me this aren't liars or gossips.
I, too, put aside my wish for a large family because he didn't want one and I wanted to please him. I come from a mid-sized disfnunctional family and craved the sense of family that his large one brought. However, now I understand that they're even more dysfunctional than my own and I no longer envy them, but the bigger ones that function all right.
And I'm angry at many things along the lines of this thread, like the idea of being sold thoughts that nuclear family living is the goal we should have, when we work so darn hard for it and it's so easily blown to smithereens.
His excuse for not having more was the toll the pregnancy was for DD and he never even actually asked or tried to work with me on research how it would be again. That would take work and may make conflict.
Sorry for my long post, just replying to say, I get it.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 9:34 AM, October 20th (Sunday)]
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