It is so frustrating because he seems to be doing everything else right. As much as I can verify, he's where he says he is, with who he says, etc. I fairly confident he hasn't had contact with OW. If he has, it's recent and on a secret phone.
It's like he gets it for a minute and then is back to the old ways. I understand the situation if I know all our friends know. He doesn't seem to understand what a lie, any lie, does. Or doesn't believe I'll walk and isn't taking my expectations seriously. If you can lie about this, you can lie about anything. It is also tricky because this is part trusting my gut, and verifying and I don't want to reveal my sources. I am not mad at his friends for knowing, I am mad at his lies. I don't, and won't, hold them accountable for what has happened.
I now feel like everything that's been done and said over the last 6 weeks has been lies and manipulation. I am so tired of verifying, so tired of giving second chances. I want to get to reconciliation, but he's making me question if its worth my time. Any advice from those of you with experience is appreciated.