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iammine posted 10/20/2013 19:18 PM

I was able to read my H's texts and emails. I was in the process of figuring all of it out when the OW got a full time job and all communication between H and OW pretty much stopped.

Since then my H's cell phone broke and he got a new one. Now since the model changed I'm no longer able to read texts. He never before had a password on his phone but he does now. He also set up a new Gmail email address and I don't know the password.

I can view his old but active email account and his Facebook. He has started talking to an old work associate via Facebook and he gave her his cell phone. He does have a program on his cell phone to have all texts and phone records sent to his email address but he used the new old.

What happens if I try and "Forget Password" on his new email? I know it would lock him out and he would do a password reset but at least I can have a look at what he is doing.

I don't know what to do.

breakingpoint posted 10/20/2013 19:24 PM

You really don't have to do a single thing to get your answer. Whether he is talking to another woman or not, he is not being honest.

I know as a wayward that EVERYTHING should be open to my husband. Its not possible for R as long as he is taking additional steps to keep you out of his communications with others.

Its not what the dishonesty is, its the spirit of dishonesty that he is still living that prevents you from moving forward with the relationship.

TheClimb posted 10/20/2013 19:25 PM

Does he know you know about the first OW? Can you still see the phone records as to who he is texting and calling?

I never had access to my husband's text messages but could tell when he was talking to her by the phone number on our cell phone records. After I knew he was spending hours talking to someone other than me, I hired a PI to follow him. I never needed the text messages after I had the PI.

There are other ways such as a VAR to track what your WH is doing. But, if you two are working things out, he should not be talking with OW or some other friend and you should definitely have all passwords.

So sorry about this.

jemimapd posted 10/20/2013 19:32 PM

Does he drive to work? If so, your best course of action is to put a voice activated recorder in the car. There is a very good chance they will be talking on the drive to and from work.

phmh posted 10/20/2013 19:37 PM

Are you in IC? You might want to think about why you'd want to stay in a marriage in which you need to play marriage police.

iammine posted 10/20/2013 19:38 PM

Thanks for the replies.

He is unaware that I know anything.

He does not choose to work. I'm just feeling anxious because I could freely see all his communication and now I am unable.

iammine posted 10/20/2013 19:39 PM

There is a 6 mth waiting list for IC... Cannot afford private. Couple of more months

headdesk posted 10/20/2013 21:01 PM

So he doesn't know you know about the first one? When are you planning to confront? Or are you?

iammine posted 10/21/2013 20:30 PM

wow...

I mentioned a new girl he was texting. a former co-worker. she would come into my work not very often. I work in a retail store. I knew who she was. then H started to text her via Facebook.

she came into work today and I couldn't believe how many times she looked at me. I was non-existant to her before he started to text her. omg, what is going on between them? both of us have each other on our Facebook pages so she is well aware of me.

it felt so awkward. I didn't want to look at her looking at me but I couldn't help it.