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Myname posted 10/20/2013 19:32 PM

So this upcoming weekend I will be meeting SO's kids for the first time. DD is 3, DS is 7.

I have talked to both of them on Skype a lot so this isn't really like a normal "1st time meeting". All of our Skype conversations have gone very smoothly and I've always managed to entertain them. Both the kids really like me and want to talk to me on Skype a couple of nights a week so I'm not worried about them liking me.

SO and I decided that it was time for me to meet them when her son made repeated requests to meet me in person.

SO is going to have a few things planned for us to do, like the zoo I think and other things like that.

Any words of wisdom for when I meet them this weekend? I have very little experience with kids so don't be afraid of insulting my intelligence.

LadyQ posted 10/20/2013 19:54 PM

One thing for sure, talk to them like they're real people! No baby talk. Ask them about their interests, and listen to the answers.

welcome14 posted 10/20/2013 20:42 PM

I'm sure they are going to love you...I remember the pics of the baby bunnies you posted that you found while mowing..they would probably love those! Kids love bunnies, and zoos and add an ice cream and genuine people...sounds like you are going to be golden. Just keep it real, they will know if you don't. Kids have an innate emotional intelligence that far surpasses adult's.

confused girl posted 10/20/2013 22:14 PM

Myname,
I was having a really crappy day so I bring up SI and I see this post and now I am crying happy tears.

You will be great, just be you. Enjoy them and they will enjoy you.

Kajem posted 10/20/2013 23:07 PM

Kids are people without life experiences to teach them. Listen to the, just like you would an adult. Remember the things that are important to them.... be yourself and you will enjoy them and they you. Kids can tell when someone is Bull shitt**g them. So treat them with respect and don't BS them.

Hugs,

K

cmego posted 10/21/2013 07:24 AM

I recommend having a cool "trick in your pocket". Mine, I can fold a mean paper airplane. So, if we are stuck at a restaurant, I start folding the napkins, or kids are cranky, or bored, or you just want to connect with them...have a "trick" that kids love.

Magic trick?
Play I-spy?
Fold origami?

Myname posted 10/21/2013 07:51 AM

I recommend having a cool "trick in your pocket".

Let's see, on Skype I've done several magic tricks, silly characters, and juggling all of which they ask for me to do again.

The more I think about this the more I think I will have no problem with this.

EvenKeel posted 10/21/2013 12:42 PM

Wow - what a cool post.

I am confident you will be fine too.

I had to chuckle about the "cool trick up your sleeve" thing. I had vision of you whipping out a pumpkin to crave.

Myname posted 10/21/2013 13:08 PM

I had vision of you whipping out a pumpkin to crave.

Yeah. I would be like hey check this trick out... 20 some odd hours later.

I'm actually doing one right now. I just started it. It is a very large pumpkin. I'm hoping I'm done by midnight but I don't know. I'll post pics down in F&G when I'm done.

Jen posted 10/22/2013 20:03 PM

Be yourself ... Kids are like dogs they can smell fear and will react to it. Either by acting out, shutting down, being overly clingy to mom ...

Make the day about them, their comfort, their desires ect. The more comfortable they feel the better.

Consistency ... I can't stress that enough. I know it may seem hard to do this for a 1st time meeting, but do best to stay on their schedule and be consistent with what they know/familiar with.

Have Fun. Enjoy being a kid again, no better reason than hanging out with kids to act like a kid. Whenever you can, as often as you can, get on their level. Bend your knees and get eye level with them, instead of towering over them.

Williesmom posted 10/23/2013 07:27 AM

I see so much growth from you, Myname. I'm proud of you.

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