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Williesmom posted 10/20/2013 19:39 PM

I just feel like ....I'm tired.

I have been seeing someone, but he obviously isn't putting the effort that I am into some kind of future relationship.

So, here I am, staring another holiday season in the face, alone. This is by no means a "poor me" post, but I just feel lost.

I feel like I have a lot to offer someone. I realize that my happiness is not dependent on some man, but I would like so much to be a part of a family, to be able to participate in that dynamic.

And, here I am on another Sunday night, alone, staring another week in the face.


259 posted 10/20/2013 19:55 PM

hugs wm,

tomorrow is another day, hopefully you will wake up feeling more positive.

you are not alone in feeling like this, and you are heard, and maybe that old cliché is true - its always darkest before the dawn.

your dawn could be just round the corner.

more hugs (((WM)))

jemimapd posted 10/20/2013 19:56 PM

I hear you. I am about to be divorced (I hope) and will be on my own, not for the first time. I have no family living. I find the holiday season daunting, too. I do have children so I try to focus on them and giving them a good experience which helps.

However, not all families are happy ones. I had dinner with a family last night and seeing the parents getting mega stressed and snap at each other made very glad to be out of a relationship.

The grass is always greener.....

Myname posted 10/20/2013 20:09 PM


welcome14 posted 10/20/2013 20:38 PM

I feel you. My last relationship ended in February when I caught him cheating (three in a row for me, yay!) and I have been alone since, only dating a few times because I feel like I can't be bothered to put in the effort. My bestie's husband even said a few weeks ago that he didn't understand, I was the total package, have so much to offer..(she was there of course). Sometimes, ya just have to step back to plan B. Enjoy your doggies and fulfill yourself. The happier I am, the more offers pop up. I am holding out this time for Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Now, and you should as well. Someone out there is healthy and whole and looking for an awesome woman, and you will find him when the time is right. Even with that said, I know that the biggest thing I have to look forward to in the holidays is the Glitter Bomb Exchange- otherwise known as the SI Christmas Card Exchange. That was a very nice pic of you and ur babies the year before last, btw. ((hugs))

cayc posted 10/20/2013 20:47 PM

Right here with you.


inconnu posted 10/20/2013 21:03 PM


Sad in AZ posted 10/20/2013 21:07 PM


PhoenixRisen posted 10/20/2013 21:12 PM

I logged in to post a simar topic myself... Feeling another fall/winter season (with tons of family get togetherness) coming up and I'm alone.
I have no advice to offer, just know you are not alone

gardenparty posted 10/20/2013 21:19 PM

((hugs)) Your posts are usually so upbeat. It is very hard going through the holidays alone. I hope that you can surround yourself with some good friends over the season. We have a lot of friends and co-workers out here who have no family nearby and always end up with a houseful. It helps me fill the ache of not having my own family nearby.

heartbroken30 posted 10/20/2013 21:20 PM

(((Willies mom)))). You are not alone in this. I often feel like falling in love again isn't in the cards for me. Big hugs to you

Chrysalis123 posted 10/20/2013 21:37 PM

(((Williesmom))) I am in the same place. It is sad.

persevere posted 10/20/2013 21:54 PM

(((Hugs))) I get it.

I'm seeing someone but it's very slow, which is fine, but the holidays are not going to be together.

I was thinking this morning while working on my list for today, how much I miss having a partner to tag team chores, errands, and make the mundane stuff more fun. It's not much fun doing it all alone.

Kajem posted 10/20/2013 23:09 PM


hexed posted 10/20/2013 23:46 PM


you are fantastic. you do have a lot to offer. don't ever doubt that

cmego posted 10/21/2013 07:29 AM

I totally understand that feeling, but I really try to rock the holidays.

I have younger kids, so it is easy for me to focus on them, but I do stuff for me too. I decorate for me, I buy myself presents, I plan a little holiday party for my girlfriends...

Dump the guy, he isn't giving you what you want, and find something that you love about the holidays and focus there.


FaithFool posted 10/21/2013 10:29 AM

This ^^^^.

We have to make our own joy. It's not an easy thing to learn and master, but if you want to achieve core happiness from within, it's something to think about.

Big huge hugs to you sweetie. You are worth all the joy life can give you.

macakipa posted 10/21/2013 11:19 AM


nutmegkitty posted 10/21/2013 11:34 AM


nowiknow23 posted 10/21/2013 11:36 AM


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