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Reconciliation :
Tonight I miss him

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 musiclovingmom (original poster member #38207) posted at 2:56 AM on Monday, October 21st, 2013

My H works very long hours. 70 hours a week is normal. Many of those are out of town. Entire days off are rare. Yesterday, he was off. We spent the day doing normal stuff. We looked at new washers and dryers (a purchase we intend to make with our tax return). We gave each other ideas for Christmas gifts and started looking at Christmas for the kids. We went grocery shopping. We hung out at the house. At bedtime, I melted down over spilling a glass of tea when I was trying to be seductive. I spiraled over how he could want me and our life when he could have the fantasy his A's offered. He handled it beautifully. We went to bed with me feeling emotionally closer than I have in months. And tonight, as he is unexpectedly having to stay overnight on a job, I miss him. I'm not worried about where he is or what he's doing. I just genuinely, deep-down miss him. Even more than I would have before dday. It sucks, but it is also encouraging. Some days I'm so amazed at how far we've come.

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 3:44 AM on Monday, October 21st, 2013

(((music)))

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HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 5:53 AM on Monday, October 21st, 2013

(((musiclovingmom)))

Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled

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catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 10:47 AM on Monday, October 21st, 2013

Well that's nice! Happy for you.

Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled

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blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 1:38 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013

(((Musiclovingmom)))

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

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OnAnIsland ( member #34319) posted at 1:46 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013

Happy for you for that ordinary day together, that reassurance from your H, and for those healthy missing him feelings. Sorry that you are missing him, of course.

[This message edited by OnAnIsland at 7:48 AM, October 21st (Monday)]

D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou

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