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Topic: And then my marriage blew up..

imwideawake
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Posted: 6:41 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013

That's all I say anymore when talking about my life. No need to give the whole story, he cheated, we tried to make it work for 3 yrs, blah blah. Nope, just, my marriage blew up. I kind of like that. If someone asks I tell, but I no longer feel the need to explain why we divorced. This was a milestone I was looking forward to and hoping to reach. I'm glad I'm there!

[This message edited by imwideawake at 1:55 PM, October 21st (Monday)]

Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW, now 45
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 20, 19, & 16
Divorced 12/04/12

Posts: 963 | Registered: Mar 2009

TrustGone
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Member # 36654

Posted: 7:18 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013

I am so glad you have reached this milestone. Everyone thinks their life will come to an end when they D, but they eventually realize that it doesn't. Once you reach the place of indifference, you actually look at it as a blessing in decise.

Me-53 XWH#2-54 NPD, alcoholic
M-11yrs T-12yrs LTA-5yrs D-8/11/15
11/28/14 "Assault with a deadly weapon" and is now with OW
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"

Posts: 6812 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas

Chrysalis123
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Member # 27148

Posted: 9:14 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013

Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver

Posts: 3893 | Registered: Jan 2010

k94ever
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Member # 11176

Posted: 9:23 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013

I refer to it as "when my life imploded".

BS: 58
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 7308 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin

lynnm1947
♀ 15300
Member # 15300

Posted: 1:09 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013

I refer to it as the time he wanted every woman he met to fu*k him and I needed one man to love only me. It was 15 years this past spring--and I rarely think of it any more unless I am commenting on someone else's posts.

Believe it or not, you will get there, too.

Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks

Posts: 8576 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada

imwideawake
♀ 23386
Member # 23386

Posted: 1:33 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013

Thanks for the replies. Last year at this time I was waiting for divorce to be finalized. It was an intense phase. Now I'm so much more relaxed. It took a while to get there. Divorce seemed like such a heavy word then.

Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW, now 45
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 20, 19, & 16
Divorced 12/04/12

Posts: 963 | Registered: Mar 2009

Williesmom
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Member # 22870

Posted: 7:47 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013

Yep! There is life after divorce.

I like your metaphor. Mine also blew up.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 8901 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA

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