Also, many of my family members. I have 9 cousins my age. 4 have married, had kids. 5 have not. They are 30-40 years old.
Just curious, Anyone else noticing this trend?? A lot of them are successful, dating, but no marriage, no kids...
I'm talking 30s-40s. I wonder if this is normal, Or just my circle of friends and family.
I had 11 aunts and uncles... Only 5 married, 6 stayed single.
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Of my gram's 5 siblings, 2 did not get married/have kids.
My uncle was the last to get married and have kids, and he was in his 40's when that happened.
out of 4 cousins, 2 are not married and have no kids, they are in their late 20's and 30's. 1 cousin just got married last year and just had twins..he is in his late 30's.
Out of my friends, 3 of us have not gotten married/had kids. We are all 30 and above.
one of my girlfriends is trying to get her tubes tied because she never wants kids ever and doesnt want any accidents either. She wants the option completely unavalible no matter what. Many find that selfish, but I think if you know you dont want kids, why subject a child to a mother who doesnt want them?
I told her though that if there was an accident, that I would gladly adopt at birth any child she has. Her parents and I are close, and we would stay very close to them - not sure if we would tell the child the truth right away or not but since this will probably never happen, then I dont worry about it to much - but I am serious.
To each their own. I always wanted to be a mom. Although I feel sorry for my XMIL....because she would have KILLED for grandchildren....and now I doubt either of her kids will have any of their own. In fact.....speaking of which... my XSIL is my age (almost) 33 and never been married or had kids. I don't think she wants to either.
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
I know for these girls it was a concious choice. They rec'd a lot more government assistance and support by being "Single Moms". They qualified for food stamps, WIC, Medicaid for their babies/kids, and were eligible for grants, and funding for higher education. If they were married, and had to take into account their SO's incomes they would not qualify for any of it. So it was a clear manipulation of the system.
I see it with many of the girls that work in this much larger office that I currently work in as well. Most of these girls work as Medical Assistants, or Biller/Coders, so they don't make a lot of money. About half go to school on tuition reimbursement, and grants, and eventually get their RN. So at least they are making themselves better, which is what the asssistance programs are intended to be used for.
If you want them to quit stabbing you in the back, then you need to quit handing them the knife.
On my mom's side of the family, 2 of my cousins are in their late 40s and have no children and never been married. My other 7 cousins are married with kids (one is divorced now). Those cousins are all in their 40s and one in their 30s.
On my dad's side, I have 3 cousins in their 30s - they all have children (one by multiple guys) but none have been married.
Friends-wise, it's pretty split... in my closest circle, I have 2 friends that are in their 30s/never married/no kids, 2 that are single moms but never married, and a few that are married with kids.