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User Topic: how many people never get married and have kids?
Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 7:19 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I notice a lot of old high school, middle school, former work friends, etc, on Facebook who haven't gotten married and had kids yet.

Also, many of my family members. I have 9 cousins my age. 4 have married, had kids. 5 have not. They are 30-40 years old.

Just curious, Anyone else noticing this trend?? A lot of them are successful, dating, but no marriage, no kids...


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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What age group are you talking about? My youngest son is about to turn 30 and never married and no children. He is now living with a woman who has a 6 year old son. Timing chemistry just hasn't been right for him so far.

NL


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hill
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, a high percentage of my college friends never married or had kids. I'm in the late 30s-early 40s generation (Gen X).

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64fleet
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

they are the smart folks


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol, that's what they say, too, 64!!

I'm talking 30s-40s. I wonder if this is normal, Or just my circle of friends and family.

I had 11 aunts and uncles... Only 5 married, 6 stayed single.


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oops, double post!

[This message edited by Gottagetthrough at 7:30 PM, October 21st (Monday)]


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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have a large family so I may not have quite the numbers.

Of my gram's 5 siblings, 2 did not get married/have kids.

My uncle was the last to get married and have kids, and he was in his 40's when that happened.

out of 4 cousins, 2 are not married and have no kids, they are in their late 20's and 30's. 1 cousin just got married last year and just had twins..he is in his late 30's.

Out of my friends, 3 of us have not gotten married/had kids. We are all 30 and above.

one of my girlfriends is trying to get her tubes tied because she never wants kids ever and doesnt want any accidents either. She wants the option completely unavalible no matter what. Many find that selfish, but I think if you know you dont want kids, why subject a child to a mother who doesnt want them?

I told her though that if there was an accident, that I would gladly adopt at birth any child she has. Her parents and I are close, and we would stay very close to them - not sure if we would tell the child the truth right away or not but since this will probably never happen, then I dont worry about it to much - but I am serious.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XWH and MOW were both obviously married before (him twice) BUT she doesn't want kids and I believe he doesn't now either. It would interfere with their "ME time" ....

To each their own. I always wanted to be a mom. Although I feel sorry for my XMIL....because she would have KILLED for grandchildren....and now I doubt either of her kids will have any of their own. In fact.....speaking of which... my XSIL is my age (almost) 33 and never been married or had kids. I don't think she wants to either.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It does seem to be a trend. At least in my area it is. When I managed an office, I had 4 girls that worked for me that were in their early to mid twenties, so now in their late 20's to 30. All of them had their kids without getting M.

I know for these girls it was a concious choice. They rec'd a lot more government assistance and support by being "Single Moms". They qualified for food stamps, WIC, Medicaid for their babies/kids, and were eligible for grants, and funding for higher education. If they were married, and had to take into account their SO's incomes they would not qualify for any of it. So it was a clear manipulation of the system.

I see it with many of the girls that work in this much larger office that I currently work in as well. Most of these girls work as Medical Assistants, or Biller/Coders, so they don't make a lot of money. About half go to school on tuition reimbursement, and grants, and eventually get their RN. So at least they are making themselves better, which is what the asssistance programs are intended to be used for.


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My uncle's best friend has never married, nor had children. He is in his late 60's now and had a great life. He is one of the happiest people you could ever meet and has never regretted his choice.


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hill
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's a recent article about how the younger Japanese generation has lost interest in marriage, kids and even dating/sex to some extent:

http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/20/young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex


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Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am closing in on 33. I have no kids and have never been married - however, that is not really by choice. I want those things.

On my mom's side of the family, 2 of my cousins are in their late 40s and have no children and never been married. My other 7 cousins are married with kids (one is divorced now). Those cousins are all in their 40s and one in their 30s.

On my dad's side, I have 3 cousins in their 30s - they all have children (one by multiple guys) but none have been married.

Friends-wise, it's pretty split... in my closest circle, I have 2 friends that are in their 30s/never married/no kids, 2 that are single moms but never married, and a few that are married with kids.


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

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