"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
Right and wrong is sometimes hard to pin down.
Right for whom? Wrong for whom?
What I think is more to the point is this...
Does this hurt you? And if it does, shouldn't he want to do whatever he can to help you?
I personally think you are NOT wrong. I am in the same situation - my Wh is rugsweeping and defensive.
But whether we are right or wrong, we deserve to be treated with love and respect.
Hugs to you!
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy