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DS Made Me Cry This Morning
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Healing2012 posted 10/21/2013 11:08 AM
I was driving my DS to school this morning and out of nowhere I hear his little voice from the backseat say, "Mama, I'm going to miss you when you're gone." Ugh. Mondays are the days he goes back to dad's/grandma's house.
I told him I would miss him every second...and then the tears started. Of course, in typical 5-year old fashion, he was onto a new topic (probably those darn Angry Birds!).
Any experience in dealing with this kind of stuff? It hurts my heart to think that he's worrying about missing me. I know he is a happy little kid when he is with his dad, so it's not like I think he's miserable there and better off with me. I just don't want him worrying or being sad.
I just hate all of this...
jo2love posted 10/21/2013 12:59 PM
(((Healing)))
Pippy posted 10/21/2013 13:30 PM
You handled it well by validating his feelings. That tells him he is safe telling you how he feels. Good job Mom!
BrokenPieces posted 10/21/2013 14:51 PM
When my eldest was that age, he would sit in my lap and SOB for 2 1/2 hours before he went to his dads house. He hated going and I had to force him. It was horrific. I went to a bead store and bought those square letter beads and made him a bracelet on elastic that said, "I <3 Mom". He wore it every time he went there and it helped him a LOT. He is 11 now and still keeps it by his bed side and still occasionally takes it with him on his visits with his dad.
Hope that helps hon. I know how awful it is. (((HUGE HUGS)))
Thefly559 posted 10/21/2013 15:04 PM
My son is 7 and he says these things often. It is heart breaking. " daddy I don't want divorce , I am gonna talk to the judge ". This sucks and I feel your pain. I am sorry but it sounds like you are doing and saying the right things. All the best.
Healing2012 posted 10/21/2013 21:29 PM
Thank you everyone! I really do feel better tonight. I think part of it is the "low" I hit each time I know I won't see my DS for a few days. I like the idea of a bracelet or trinket of some sort that will remind him of how much I love and miss him.
I'm so glad I'm not alone here...