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User Topic: DS Made Me Cry This Morning
Healing2012
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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was driving my DS to school this morning and out of nowhere I hear his little voice from the backseat say, "Mama, I'm going to miss you when you're gone." Ugh. Mondays are the days he goes back to dad's/grandma's house.
I told him I would miss him every second...and then the tears started. Of course, in typical 5-year old fashion, he was onto a new topic (probably those darn Angry Birds!).

Any experience in dealing with this kind of stuff? It hurts my heart to think that he's worrying about missing me. I know he is a happy little kid when he is with his dad, so it's not like I think he's miserable there and better off with me. I just don't want him worrying or being sad.

I just hate all of this...


BS: Me (42)
WS: Husband (48)
Married 10 years
Two children 6 & 18 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Divorced

Posts: 425 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Healing)))

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Pippy
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You handled it well by validating his feelings. That tells him he is safe telling you how he feels. Good job Mom!


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.



Posts: 9588 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
BrokenPieces
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When my eldest was that age, he would sit in my lap and SOB for 2 1/2 hours before he went to his dads house. He hated going and I had to force him. It was horrific. I went to a bead store and bought those square letter beads and made him a bracelet on elastic that said, "I <3 Mom". He wore it every time he went there and it helped him a LOT. He is 11 now and still keeps it by his bed side and still occasionally takes it with him on his visits with his dad.

Hope that helps hon. I know how awful it is. (((HUGE HUGS)))


BS-42
Red Headed Imps 12 & 10
DDay 1/05
Divorce final 6/21/06
My new life is GRAND.
Married my new beginning 6/09

Posts: 2299 | Registered: Jul 2005 | From: Greater Seattle Area
Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My son is 7 and he says these things often. It is heart breaking. " daddy I don't want divorce , I am gonna talk to the judge ". This sucks and I feel your pain. I am sorry but it sounds like you are doing and saying the right things. All the best.


"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"

Posts: 831 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
Healing2012
♀ 35238
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone! I really do feel better tonight. I think part of it is the "low" I hit each time I know I won't see my DS for a few days. I like the idea of a bracelet or trinket of some sort that will remind him of how much I love and miss him.

I'm so glad I'm not alone here...


BS: Me (42)
WS: Husband (48)
Married 10 years
Two children 6 & 18 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Divorced

Posts: 425 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
Topic Posts: 6

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