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Healing2012 (original poster member #35238) posted at 5:08 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
I was driving my DS to school this morning and out of nowhere I hear his little voice from the backseat say, "Mama, I'm going to miss you when you're gone." Ugh. Mondays are the days he goes back to dad's/grandma's house.
I told him I would miss him every second...and then the tears started. Of course, in typical 5-year old fashion, he was onto a new topic (probably those darn Angry Birds!).
Any experience in dealing with this kind of stuff? It hurts my heart to think that he's worrying about missing me. I know he is a happy little kid when he is with his dad, so it's not like I think he's miserable there and better off with me. I just don't want him worrying or being sad.
I just hate all of this...
BS: Me (46)
XH: Husband (52)
Married 10 years
Two children 11 & 23 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Divorced - 6/18/15
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 6:59 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
Pippy ( member #16482) posted at 7:30 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
You handled it well by validating his feelings. That tells him he is safe telling you how he feels. Good job Mom!
I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
BrokenPieces ( member #7685) posted at 8:51 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
When my eldest was that age, he would sit in my lap and SOB for 2 1/2 hours before he went to his dads house. He hated going and I had to force him. It was horrific. I went to a bead store and bought those square letter beads and made him a bracelet on elastic that said, "I <3 Mom". He wore it every time he went there and it helped him a LOT. He is 11 now and still keeps it by his bed side and still occasionally takes it with him on his visits with his dad.
Hope that helps hon. I know how awful it is. (((HUGE HUGS)))
BS-43
Red Headed Imps 14 & 11
DDay 1/05
Divorce final 6/21/06
My new life is GRAND.
Married my new beginning 6/09
Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 9:04 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
My son is 7 and he says these things often. It is heart breaking. " daddy I don't want divorce , I am gonna talk to the judge ". This sucks and I feel your pain. I am sorry but it sounds like you are doing and saying the right things. All the best.
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
Healing2012 (original poster member #35238) posted at 3:29 AM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
Thank you everyone! I really do feel better tonight. I think part of it is the "low" I hit each time I know I won't see my DS for a few days. I like the idea of a bracelet or trinket of some sort that will remind him of how much I love and miss him.
I'm so glad I'm not alone here...
BS: Me (46)
XH: Husband (52)
Married 10 years
Two children 11 & 23 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Divorced - 6/18/15
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