I don't believe any spouse is perfect. We have been together to long and we know better. If he honestly is talking to you, cares about how you feel, and helps you when you need it, what else can we ask? Its a hard place to get to because of the grief and hurt but if you can say he is trying his best, that's really all he can do. By the way 90% of people that had an affair do not want to leave their spouse. They may think things are headed there but they don't actually want it to happen.
[This message edited by heartbrokeninaz at 9:21 PM, October 21st (Monday)]