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User Topic: No Contact Advice Needed Please
IndianDreams
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Default  Posted: 5:51 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been in no contact with my WH for a few weeks now and he's tried everything to bypass it. Last night he had my 14yr old SD messaging me begging me to talk to him. I am sooooh tempted to text him & ask him to leave me alone. He's harrassing my friends, ringing, texting, coming round, everything he can to get me to back to him, except show any remorse or even admit they were ever anything other than friends.
What do I do?


It wasn't my fault; my bucket was broken
NC = no new hurts

Posts: 38 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: England
summerain
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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would advise going nuclear and sending him an email stating

"This is an email requesting you to cease all harassment of my friends and ______. Any further contact through different channels will be considered as ______ and I will _____"


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia
IndianDreams
♀ 40991
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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

going nuclear sounds good right now lauren
I called the police again last night as he'd been up again, not that it does any good, he does exactly as he wants


It wasn't my fault; my bucket was broken
NC = no new hurts

Posts: 38 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: England
Skan
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you've seen a lawyer, you might ask them to draft up a cease harassing me letter to send to him. Keep a copy. Then the next time you have to call the police, show them the letter and ask about an RO. Maybe the threat of jail time will wake him up. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5237 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd say, come up with a standard to tell friends and his children if/when he attempts to contact you through them or if/when he attempts to get them to talk to you about them. It could be simple: "We're not on speaking terms right now" or "I would prefer not to discuss WH" to friends and maybe "I'm sorry, baby, you'll have to leave that between me and your father" to your stepchildren. It sucks that he's trying to put people in the middle. It sounds manipulative.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3935 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
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