Time to shut down the rumor mill again.
The latest one is that XPerv is asking permission to bring Fatty B out of the dark and into sunlight and introduce her to his family.
The rumor mill also told me that DD is running around bragging to people about her new life with her father, showing pictures, talking about her "new family".
The rumor mill is not happy with this development but has not guts to tell him to eff off.
So, they lose me.
Only one IL has the guts to tell him that the person is not welcome at their house. I told her if people welcome Fatty B, they lose me. It's not meant as a contest but is the tip top of my threshold and I am toppling over again.
So, in effort to not let it emotionally break me, I am going to go silent on them again.
Rumor has it that something is brewing for holiday time and I simply don't want to hear it anymore.
This woman is a true friend and listened and I believe when she said what she did. This woman also said she worries she will be forced to meet her someday and doesn't know what to do. Being polite is inbred in her as it is me, but she claims loyalty.
Her H is very angry and their way is to not respond to XPerv's contact, but I also am a realist and get the blood and water thing.
xPerv is also very, very bold and could just show up at these places with the tribe.
So I think that cutting ties is probably best.
Some of them have sent baby gifts and it goes against my upbringing to not send a thank you. Some of them are pretty much out of my life now anyway, but 20 years is a lot to swallow.
To be so easily replaced will take a while to get over.
Most days and nights I don't even think of this anymore, but one of them wanted to visit the baby and this came out.
What it does do, is reinforce the crickets to the whole effing bunch. They are such a strange group, who don't deal with reality until it's a major problem and then they put a band aid over it.
We really learn who is "true" in the face of this kind of mess, don't we?
Eta to add that this man believes he is in the right; he believes he is not a cheater; he believes Fatty B is his future, his soul mate.
Now DD is dragged in and being shown this kind of living is okay, when it is.so.not.
A good thing is that one other of them won't tolerate being embarrassed by the A in town long-it's a very small town and this man is professional and very prevalent in the community. He's bailed XPerv out in the past legally and will stop doing so when his own threshold is reached. This will be a stop for the karma bus.
Why do we put up with what we do?
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 10:56 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)]
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