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IndianDreams posted 10/22/2013 15:25 PM

I broke no contact with my WH today to text him a message asking him to stop harassing me & my friends, texting, ringing, fb messaging & coming round to my house. I told him that if he didn't stop I would take out an injunction against him.
He took the opportunity to try and 'make me see sense' and convince me him and his 'friend' were nothing more than mates, as usual. I stuck to my guns and simply stated I didn't believe him and didn't want any further contact with him.
I ignored 3 texts from him, as I was talking to a police officer about him keep coming up to my house and just as she was leaving I checked the messages. The last one was that he was going to kill himself and do it right this time. He's already had one close call where he went to far faking it and almost killed himself (in front of his kids) and another one where he cried wolf and when I got to his house he went mad at me.
The police woman called for back up, as he is 6ft 6 and as she described - a bit of a handful for them last time and went to his house. There he was, large as life, cooking the kids tea!
WTF???
WHAT the hell am I dealing with here? Is this a sign of a personality disorder or what?

headdesk posted 10/22/2013 15:34 PM

Keep doing what you are doing - involve the police every time and ignore whatever drivel he wants to spout. You're doing good, he's just one very screwed up individual. Hope that they can remove kids eventually so they don't have to live in that either.

silverhopes posted 10/22/2013 15:48 PM

There isn't a way to know if it's a personality disorder or if it's him trying to reassert control by saying whatever he thinks will catch your attention.

Definitely keep informing the police. If he does it again, notify them. Each instance will be documented, and there will come a time where he realizes the button doesn't work - he won't get you in person, he'll get the police each time (who will know how to respond if he is seriously suicidal), and they won't be really happy with his antics if he keeps faking.

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. Keep up the NC.

Nature_Girl posted 10/22/2013 15:51 PM

You absolutely need to involve the police and/or just call 911 each & every time he threatens suicide. Do not let him control you this way. BTDT, it is mindblowing cruelty.

Furthermore, if you do involve the authorities/mental health professionals every single time he threatens, then, should he ever be successful, you will be able to truthfully assert that you did everything you possibly could to prevent it.

Dare2Trust posted 10/22/2013 15:59 PM

Agreed --- Every time he pulls the Suicide Card: Notify the Police and Mental Health Authorities and let them handle it.

IF he continues to yell "sucicide" when he has the kids around: Seek a Court Order for "supervised visits only" stating: YOU DO NOT want your kids alone with him...because you don't want you kids to witness their father killing himself in front of them!!!

IndianDreams posted 10/22/2013 16:07 PM

sorry, I forgot to mention they are HIS kids, my step-kids and as such I can have no contact with them unless he says so and you can imagine how that's panning out.

Just how do I involve mental health services? I'm in the UK btw. I'm almost certain he has a personality disorder and needs help before he harms the kids, himself or me.

SerJR posted 10/22/2013 16:26 PM

He's digging his own grave, so to say.
Like the others said, involve the police and document, document, document! This will be very useful for any future legal battles between you two.
You and your kids deserve better than to deal with this.

Skan posted 10/22/2013 17:09 PM

Just forward any suicide threats that he makes to you directly to the police. I'd block his number and, sorry to say, his children's numbers as well since he is using them to get to you. (((hugs)))

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