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User Topic: It's his birthday
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought this day might be tough. It's XWH's birthday. He's 45. Recently he had a new profile pic on facebook. He looked terrible. Pale, lines deepening around his eyes and across his forehead, hair even thinner and more receded than when we were together. A weird smile, you know... the kind where you can't see any teeth? And his eyes!! Ugh. Just vacant to me. I guess because now I know that behind his NPD fašade, there's no one home. At least no one worth knowing.

My best friend was delighted with the photo and couldn't wait to show me. lol. She's convinced all his conniving ways are finally catching up with him. I love her for how much she hates him on my behalf.

But today wasn't hard at all. I thought about last year on his b-day. His 17yo son gave a fellow student a note in which he said he was going to commit suicide. The girl gave it to the teacher, and of course the school reacted accordingly. The school called XWH, who of course didn't answer. Then they called me. I went to the school, got the note, talked with the vice principal, and then brought DS17 home for a tearful and intense conversation about what had happened and why.

When XWH finally showed up several hours later, his response was to be pissed that DS17 had "the fucking nerve to pull this shit on my birthday!!".

Memories like these make me realize I'm so much better off without him. So. Much. Better.

I'm sure he's pissed today too, because his kids (except probably DD22) will not even realize its his birthday. He doesn't have me there anymore, giving little reminders to the boys that "its dad's birthday, or fathers day, or whatever... I know he'd really love a call or even a text from you." I always did that for him. Always. Guaranteed OW will not.

He's going to be so confused why the kids always "remembered" his birthday before, and this year....


[This message edited by gypsybird87 at 7:00 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)]

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords

Posts: 1857 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish him all the happiness he deserves...

poor DS17. I hope this day passes uneventfully for him.

Me: 45, independent, happy, despite parallel parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 15 DS 12
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 7052 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When XWH finally showed up several hours later, his response was to be pissed that DS17 had "the fucking nerve to pull this shit on my birthday!!".

That there is the very essence of the man. Rotten. Rotten to the core.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6008 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sounds like right on NPD behavior.

I'll match you one to say that the XPervert told me to "butt out" of his life with I when she gets an invitation for something and it's phone call time, I don't contact him any longer-he said butt out, right?

So this week I was overtired and slipped that she was not home one night and he jumped on it and said, "gee, it's good to know so I'm not an arse somewhere." He jumps the gun and will call her friend's house to try to connect with her and gets it wrong if it changes...well, he said, "butt out!" Yep, stuck in my head.

So, when I reminded him that he said to butt out, electronically this all is, he got very angry and told me he was "quite done arguing."


It helps emotionally when friends are angry at an X, that's for sure-it can be a show of support.

I had one though that I had to get tough on because she was so mad she started writing snide things on OW's facebook and she didn't know of the NPD status.

Anyway...long winded reply to say you're not alone with the crazy.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 4:31 PM, October 26th (Saturday)]

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It has always amazed me how these assholes can treat people like absolute shit, but when they get treated with even the slightest amount of indifference to their feelings, they flip out. Ironic, isn't it.

Spent half my life with an Ahole
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