OMG cyrene - I am so sorry.
I wish I could give you some advise, but your situation is one of the worst ones I have ever read about and I, honestly, am not qualified to help.
All I can offer you is an ear to listen and let you know that you are not alone in your pain.
I hope you are practising the 180 on your WS and seeking help from IC and seeing a lawyer to find out what you can do to protect yourself and your granddaughter.
Please keep us updated and know that we care and you are not alone.
[This message edited by devasted30 at 7:53 AM, October 24th (Thursday)]