I'd like some opinions on this delicate situation please. I'm not sure of the best approach.
I have 2 children. DS 19, DD 15. Both are gorgeous, intelligent, sensitive young people. They both live at home and are best of friends 99% of the time. They socialise together occasionally, give advice to each other and are a whole lot closer than my brother and I ever were.
They each have their own unique skill set but DD is becoming increasingly annoyed that DS has expressed an interest in 'her' talent of music (singing and playing instruments). She claims this is her 'thing'. Her 'special-ness'. Her 'special connection' with her father. She is not keen to share.
I'm not sure I handled it particularly well when she complained about DS new interest in 'her thing'. More than anything it worried me that she felt she needed something to be 'special'. I reassured her and pointed out to her her many talents. I also told her that I did not consider myself particularly different from the average guy on the street but that I was the best me that I could be and I was happy with that. She said she felt that she may not be happy with that. We finished the conversation with a hug and me reminding her of how loved she is but I'm not sure she was satisfied with this.
I always thought she was happy, confident and had a healthy self esteem. Her attitude to this situation though, has me concerned that it may not be the case.
I'd be grateful for others opinions about this.
[This message edited by vivere at 5:00 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday)]