Me (BW): 34
1DH just confessed that he broke NC with the female coworker he had an inappropriate relationship with.
He sent her a NC letter a couple of weeks ago asking her not to contact him unless it was absolutely necessary to his job, and that if she had any work related questions to please direct them to someone else on his team. Well, yesterday he said he was in the break room heating up food in the microwave. There was a crowd of people in there. While his food was heating, she approached him and said, "Hey, how are things going in [1DH's department]?"
1DH: "Fine, I'm super busy. I've got a dozen projects ongoing now."
Her: "Good! Our new VP is big on documentation, so I'm really busy!"
1DH: "Oh, cool that you're busy. Good to hear. Gotta go back!" He then grabbed his food and left.
He promised me to only talk to her if necessary about work, but I don't feel this was necessary. I feel it was engaging in office pleasantries. He feels it WAS a necessary conversation because there were other people around. He says he didn't perpetuate the conversation and spoke as little as possible to get out of there as quickly as he could. I feel that since he sent her the NC email, his response should have been along the lines of, "I'm sorry, but unless it's absolutely necessary I can't talk to you." His attitude is different and he feels that since SHE approached HIM and asked him about work (as in, "how's it going?") that he was obligated to engage in conversation with her.
What do you guys think? Am I over reacting? Because I'm pretty upset over this!
SAFWH (1DumbHusband): 37
Married 7 years with 2 beautiful kiddos
BIG D-Day: June 17th, 2013
Too many freaking TTs that nearly cost us our marriage; currently in reconciliation.
"Love isn't a feeling, it's a decision."