My husband and I just celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary a little over a week ago. We have a two year old little girl and we live with my family and have lived with them for the past year. Before moving in with them, my husband was in the military and we lived elsewhere. He got out of the army after five years with a traumatic brain injury and PTSD. We had a major rough time in our marriage after he came home from Afghanistan, but for the last year our marriage has been solid.
I finally believed that my spouse was really my best friend. We've been connecting on so many levels, really enjoying our relationship. We took a trip on our anniversary for four days and it was wonderful. A week later and my husband starts staying up super late on his computer and I felt in my gut that something wasn't right and checked his email account and found a reply to a craigslist ad for a woman looking for a married man, who is looking for discreet fun but not looking to ruin either marriages. The next day, I check his email and instead find that he posted an ad in the strictly platonic personal ad, "looking for an older lady friend". He is 27, I am 26. We have been together since we were 18, married at 20.
I feel blindsided and betrayed. I'm waiting to see what plays out before making the decision to confront him. If I confront him, I know I will end it. Am I crazy to wait for confirmation of an actual honest to god affair before deciding to end the marriage? He knows something is up with me, he's asked me multiple times what is wrong but hasn't pressed when I dodged his questions.
I don't understand why he would do this. We worked so hard at our marriage, at our friendship together and it seems like he is ready to potentially throw it away. This isn't the first time in our marriage he has done this, but in the past there was no follow through with anything because I confronted him and worked with him because of the issues he had with his PTSD and ongoing problems we had with the military regarding his treatment. Now to see it again, after all the crap we've worked through just feels like a slap in the face. I feel so disrespected and unappreciated that it is making me reevaluate our whole relationship and regretting always giving him the benefit of the doubt and loving him so fiercely even when he was breaking my heart.