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User Topic: Battling
Euphonasia
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Member # 39285
Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After finding out about posting on Craigslist for sex with transgendered men in February, a physical affair in April (when he was supposed to be taking care of his parents....he screwed her in their home while they were at the hospital), him false R with me, quitting his job to continue his affair, and me finding out at work when his AP called me (and used the word whore in regards to me) He finally left in July when I was in vacation (and stole my car in the process....I got it back btw) with thee dogs, a godson, and a bunch of his bills, he messaged me today in order to ask me to pay for his portion of the divorce and he would pay me back later. Yeah right. I do fine most days, but I just feel like I am battling so hard. I am lonely, miserable, and depressed. I don't know how to fix it. There are times when I sit in the local convenience store just to have someone to talk to or even pretend to be around people. I don't want him back, but I have no family down here and I am so miserable. How do you tolerate it? How do you make it through the day? How does it not drag you down every day? Any advice is fantastic and appreciated.


"When I die, hallelujah bye and bye, I'll fly away."
Multiple D-days, divorcing

Posts: 22 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Southeastern United States
whiteflower99
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Member # 13937
Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Huge hugs
Someone else in jfo posted you have 40,000 New friends here.
But I get what you mean. It has to get better tho.


What are you pretending not to know?

me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way.


Posts: 1812 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Not Lothlorien
iwillNOT
♀ 40605
Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((huge))

Please don't pay for his portion of the divorce...

Sounds like you are feeling really isolated and in pain right now. I would advise that you actually write out a schedule for your day and follow it, to give you some structure and a feeling of accomplishment. Nothing ambitious or achievement oriented, just something like
8 am wake, shower, eat, coffee
9 walk dogs
10 read 2 chapters of a good book or Call family for a chat
Etc, etc

Also get out around people! Check your local library bulletin boards for book clubs, walking groups, community events. Volunteer at the library, animal shelter, or help hand out food at local food pantries. Lead a girl scout troop? Get a coffee at the local bookstore and read and soak in the atmosphere. Take a community education class on basket weaving or pasta making or hula hooping lol! Just - keep busy and get out and start to feel a little normal again.

Boy, that was a ton of suggestions. I kind of think I was giving my own self some advice lol. Well, let's both do it then!


Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 519 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
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