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Heartbroken2013 posted 10/24/2013 07:05 AM

Ok so ...

H confessed to his parents the other day about what he has done.

I am so proud of him for doing so, I know it took a lot of courage to sit his parents down and tell them that their blue eyed boy isn't as perfect as they always thought he was.

I know they are shocked, and I know this is all new to them (at least for us its been 11mths, but ive just recently got more TT and and DDays)

Yesterday I was at his mums with the children and was talking about the children's behaviour and she said that they were just looking attention (please be aware our children are adopted and have only been living with us for 8 mths) I calmly said that with everything that has been happening this past 2 weeks, its no wonder because as much as we hide things from them, they are bound to feel a difference, even in our body language to each other (me & H)

Anyway, she said to me 'yes I can imagine, it hasn't been easy in your house this past 2 weeks' to which I said ...
'the past year to be honest'

OMG! If I did!!

Well, u and I both know that its not in H character to do something like he did (never mind the fact it went on for a year and half) so it must be down to something happening at HOME!!!!!!!!

So I said to her ....

HE HAD AN AFFAIR WITH SEVERAL WOMEN .... He did things with these women behind my back, he was sly and spiteful.

And she said .... like I said, must be a reason behind this and we WILL get to the bottom!!!!

OMFG hold me back!

I know she ishis mother and I understand she is in shock, shit ive had to live with it for 11 mths and im STILL in shock. Who the hell is she to say WE WILL SORT IT ...

This is OUR marriage not hers!!! And why the hell do people think that things must be bad at home for the other spouse to fuck about!!!!

I have been noting but faithful to her son, I have loved him for who he is. I gave up my home, my family, my friends, my independence to move here to be with him, and least of all i gave up MY SEX LIFE for him ...

And she blames me!

So So annoyed! Sorry for the rant but im so hurt.

My H is now really annoyed with her (and his dad as he keeps texting saying things like ... son I know u have been looking after everyone these past few years and u must have snapped, now time to look after yourself' arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!)

What on earth can we do about them, they are making me angry nearly every day when they are doing something or other!

Scientist posted 10/24/2013 07:25 AM

This is totally unacceptable from his mother and father, but maybe there is an insight to be had. Perhaps their overly indulgent parenting gave him the monstrous sense of entitlement that allowed him to have to have an affair.
Be grateful that now he shares your anger, and try to ignore their insulting opinions. After all, you were also in the marriage, and YOU did not respond to the way things were by having an affair. Can't you tell them to mind their own business, it is nothing to do with them?

jjct posted 10/24/2013 07:38 AM

There is good news here! Your H is annoyed! Good.
Maybe time for him to step up to the plate & say to mum & dad that Heartbroken2013 - or the state of the M - had nothing to do with his choices.