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My divorce from my sex addict husband was final in April. During our separation and pending divorce I met a man on an online dating web site I will call Ernie. From our first date eveyone commented on how happy we looked together. They all assumed we were married in fact and many people commented on how they wished they could find what we obviosuly appeared to have. We had so many coincidences that it seemed we were destined to find eachother. I had worked 4 years with his exwife, I had been one of his sons teachers in elementary school, his boss lived nextdoore to me, his exwife dated my neighbor across the street, his best freind was my friends husband and his divorce was the exact same day that my husband had left me. He always said "we were meant to be.
During our 10 month love affair he spoke of a woman who had been married to a guy he worked with in the military. He had seen her in 10 years and she had since had two additional divorces. She was also diagnosed with a type of bone cancer and he had reconncected w her on facebook and they texted eachother. This didnt concern me because Ernie had many friends both male and female that he texted. In August he seemed more and more involved with her and her mother. Texting seemed daily and he was more and more empathetic to her condition. He even had made a photo album of her in his phone. Since he didnt have one of me it upset me but he made me feel bad by saying she was dying. And he had made the album the day her mother told him she was dying. Meanwhile I am doing everything for this man. Helping him paint his house, driving whereever he was, Threw him a huge 50th surpise bday party and much more. Just before his bday he told me that his sick friend and mother were wanting him to fly to Louisiana to see her. We live in Connecticut. The mother said she would only listen to him and that her chemo was killing her, He said he had saved her life by talking her out of doing the chemo she was schedued for and postponed it. He also told me she had a boyfriend in the miliatary stationed in California. So I start to get supsicious about the relationsip because she is more and more on his mind and he is texting her and calling her a lot. He is also very protective of his phone and not wanting me to see. Just before his bday party in aug he told me he had decided to go to Louisiana for her bday for 4 days. Told me if I said no he wouldnt go. I said no. He got angry and called me uncaring and unsopportive. He said SHE IS DYING!! and this would be her last birthday. He made me feel so bad I even bought her a bday gift which he made me return. His trip was schedued for Sept 26. And just prior we have a fight about why he couldnt commit to an event to go to together on MY bday buy he was flying across the country to spend 4 days w a friend he hasnt seen in 10 years. So he broke up with me! We spent the next week reconciling, more fights, broke up again but just before he left he called and told me how he was miserable without me, missed everything about me, and wanted to see me when he got back from his trip. Then he texted me how wonderful I am. He did not contact me while he was away which i thought was weird. On his return flight he had a flirty text chat and then he go enraged and crazy jealous when I told him I had talked to a male friend of his at a bar. I had never seen him act jealous before. After that he said he coudlnt be with me, That he was sorry things didnt work out and he was going to devote his life to his 18 eyar old son in his last year of HS and that he was going to move back to SC or south at the end of the year. I was devestated!!! But sure he would come back. He texted me every couple of days giving me some hope we woould reconcile. Two weeks later I went to his sons school play becaue he goes to the school I teach And Ernie was there wtih the woman from louisiana!! He had flown her in on Wednesday and was staying at his house!!! I couildnt believe my eyes!! They were holding hands and cuddling. And all the lies he told me came crashing down around me. I was so distraught I confronted them both at intermission but you could tell that she knew nothing about me excetp that I was Ernies friend. I told her Ernie had asked me to marry him and that she was dying and he said he waas only going out of obligation. I confronted Ernie in the lobby because he leftt while I was talking to her. I told him he lied and asked how he could do that since he was alwYS PLAYING the role of hero against my cheating abusive ex. As he and she left the auditorium we ran into eachother . I asked Ernie again how he could do that to me and thats when he threatened to POUND ME in the face!! I left. He later texted me that I had cost him his relaionship which I dont know if it was true and that he was going to try and cost me my job at school. He did call my school but after I gave them the whole story I was not disciplined. I still cant beleive any of this happened!!! Everyone that knows Ernie loves him and cant believe he has done this either. My therapyist says I keep chosing the same kind of man. We were so inlove right before he left!! And he threw me away for a woman he has only texted for a year and never seen until two weeks ago. She is 15 years younger, has 2 younger kids and she is a doctor. I had warned him about emotional and internet affiars but in the end he got on that plane. I wonder if he will ever see what he threw away. My heaert is broken into a million pieces.

My divorce from my sex addict husband was final in April. During our separation and pending divorce I met a man on an online dating web site I will call Ernie.  From our first date eveyone commented on how happy we looked together. They all assumed we were married in fact and many people commented on how they wished they could find what we obviosuly appeared to have. We had so many coincidences that it seemed we were destined to find eachother. I had worked 4 years with his exwife, I had been one of his sons teachers in elementary school, his boss lived nextdoore to me, his exwife dated my neighbor across the street, his best freind was my friends husband and his divorce was the exact same day that my husband had left me.  He always said "we were meant to be.  
During our 10 month love affair he spoke of a woman who had been married to a guy he worked with in the military.  He had seen her in 10 years and she had since had two additional divorces. She was also diagnosed with a type of bone cancer and he had reconncected w her on facebook and they texted eachother. This didnt concern me because Ernie had many friends both male and female that he texted. In August he seemed more and more involved with her and her mother.  Texting seemed daily and he was more and more empathetic to her condition. He even had made a photo album of her in his phone.  Since he didnt have one of me it upset me but he made me feel bad by saying she was dying. And he had made the album the day her mother told him she was dying. Meanwhile I am doing everything for this man. Helping him paint his house, driving whereever he was, Threw him a huge 50th surpise bday party and much more. Just before his bday he told me that his sick friend and mother were wanting him to fly to Louisiana to see her.  We live in Connecticut. The mother said she would only listen to him and that her chemo was killing her,  He said he had saved her life by talking her out of doing the chemo she was schedued for and postponed it. He also told me she had a boyfriend in the miliatary stationed in California.  So I start to get supsicious about the relationsip because she is more and more on his mind and he is texting her and calling her a lot. He is also very protective of his phone and not wanting me to see. Just before his bday party in aug he told me he had decided to go to Louisiana for her bday for 4 days. Told me if I said no he wouldnt go. I said no. He got angry and called me uncaring and unsopportive. He said SHE IS DYING!! and this would be her last birthday.  He made me feel so bad I even bought her a bday gift which he made me return. His trip was schedued for Sept 26. And just prior we have a fight about why he couldnt commit to an event to go to together on MY bday buy he was flying across the country to spend 4 days w a friend he hasnt seen in 10 years.  So he broke up with me!  We spent the next week reconciling, more fights, broke up again but just before he left he called and told me how he was miserable without me, missed everything about me, and wanted to see me when he got back from his trip.  Then he texted me how wonderful I am. He did not contact me while he was away which i thought was weird. On his return flight he had a flirty text chat and then he go enraged and crazy jealous when I told him I had talked to a male friend of his at a bar.  I had never seen him act jealous before. After that he said he coudlnt be with me, That he was sorry things didnt work out and he was going to devote his life to his 18 eyar old son in his last year of HS and that he was going to move back to SC or south at the end of the year.  I was devestated!!! But sure he would come back. He texted me every couple of days giving me some hope we woould reconcile.  Two weeks later I went to his sons school play becaue he goes to the school I teach  And Ernie was there wtih the woman from louisiana!! He had flown her in on Wednesday and was staying at his house!!! I couildnt believe my eyes!! They were holding hands and cuddling. And all the lies he told me came crashing down around me. I was so distraught I confronted them both at intermission but you could tell that she knew nothing about me excetp that I was Ernies friend. I told her Ernie had asked me to marry him and that she was dying and he said he waas only going out of obligation. I confronted Ernie in the lobby because he leftt while I was talking to her. I told him he lied and asked how he could do that since he was alwYS PLAYING the role of hero against my cheating abusive ex.  As he and she left the auditorium we ran into eachother . I asked Ernie again how he could do that to me and thats when he threatened to POUND ME in the face!! I left.  He later texted me that I had cost him his relaionship which I dont know if it was true and that he was going to try and cost me my job at school.  He did call my school but after I gave them the whole story I was not disciplined.  I still cant beleive any of this happened!!! Everyone that knows Ernie loves him and cant believe he has done this either. My therapyist says I keep chosing the same kind of man.  We were so inlove right before he left!! And he threw me away for a woman he has only texted for a year and never seen until two weeks ago. She is 15 years younger, has 2 younger kids and she is a doctor.  I had warned him about emotional and internet affiars but in the end he got on that plane.  I wonder if he will ever see what he threw away.  My heaert is broken into a million pieces.