He is very active, etc. I think sitting and trying to do music might not be his thing. Maybe gymnastics or something would be better...
The teacher (we've been going to this class over a year). Said to my son, in front of the whole class, "johnny, you can have your sticker today, but next week, I want you to listen to mommy. If you don't, you will not get a sticker. OK? I'm holding you to that."
She's never done that to other kids.
I don't know how to feel about this-- an opportunity
to teach my very spirited son to sit and listen, or should I be pissed that she picked my kid out and said this in front of everyone?
I'm really nervous about next week. I was actually happy with his behavior this week. He did do a few things (run into the middle of the circle, etc). But he also participated well. I told him when I was happy with his behavior. I mean, does she expect certain behavior? She's never said anything.
I kinda don't want to go back
Sounds like he is an active kid, maybe even a little ADHD with impulsiveness, so what I would recommend is contacting the teacher, and asking her specifically what it was about this week, and what her expectations are. Then use that to talk to your son about it when you find out, and remind him again before going into class so he can try his best.
As a former ADHD kid, I can say that I was constantly not getting sticker, being singled out, and sometimes made to feel bad about my inability to control myself, what did it do for me? Made me not feel uncomfortable in front of others, I was always able to get up and speak to a group, I can take charge in almost any situation set before me. So being called out, in front of others is not a bad thing, it's how he reacts, and you react to it that make the difference.
There is pretty much no way (and iMO no reason, within the usual bounds) for a teacher to privately handle all minor discipline, especially with that age class, and by being so clear with her expectations in front of the class they've all understood an important boundary as well.
I dont know why it felt bad when she did this today... Similar thing happened in a preschool class (son didn't get the treat) and I was GLAD that there was a consequence.
Something about the music teacher rubbed me the wrong way
If she said it nicely and was respectful to him, then I would take it as a learning opportunity.
Gymnastics would probably be a lot of fun for him, too. DD loved it.
Kids do things for others that they don't necessarily do for their parents.
That teacher may have done you a favor! Before the next class you can remind your DS what the teacher said last time. Then he can be in control of getting the reward... or not.
I dunno making a 4 yr old sit through music might be torchure. I like more active stuff like gymnastics or soccer to burn off some of their energy. Better for kid and parent..LOL
My 4-year-old grandson is quite spirited and active. He loves sports and gymnastics - anything where he is active.
I dunno making a 4 yr old sit through music might be torchure. I like more active stuff like gymnastics or soccer to burn off some of their energy. Better for kid and parent..LOL..
Sometimes i find being made to sit through things torture too, i'm 30.
Is 4 a little young to understand the lesson that is going on - probably, but this happens all the time in adult world.
You get a jerk boss that calls you out infront of everyone - how do you handle it?
Shaming a kid into behaving is an easy way out, but I would use it as a learning moment.