BS - Me
So I was eating lunch at a café today reading when I started to overhear bits and pieces of a conversation between a couple sitting next to me. Wasn't intentionally listening, but her voice started to rise so it was impossible not to. They were apparently discussing something about their (teen?) child was going to be doing. The comment that made the hair on the back of my neck rise was the wife saying to the husband, "I am really sorry. I didn't think this was something that I needed to ask your permission for first." What??? She repeated it several times and apologized countless times more. His voice was lower and I couldn't hear his response except a few snippets about her needing to ask him first for things like this, but he otherwise sat there with a smug, arrogant, "I am king" look on his face and gave her a "you are lower than dirt and must defer to me at all times" type of expression. Made my freaking skin crawl! In the past I would have really not thought twice about such a conversation, but that subservient manner on the wife's part, and his apparent expectation of it, really pissed me off! Probably unreasonably so! I really wanted to jump across the table and slam his arrogant head into his plate of food and shake some sense into her and tell her she deserved so much more!
Maybe I am still in a very hypervigilent mode, but I have to say that even XPOS knew better than to ever try that. Discussing things as spouses before acting is fine and part of the marriage partnership, but asking permission? No. Fucking. Way!!
Sorry, but that really pissed me off on her behalf!
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 5:54 PM, October 24th (Thursday)]
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet