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gypsybird87 (original poster member #39193) posted at 1:01 AM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013
I went out on a late morning coffee/breakfast date today with a guy I met online. I thought I'd be nervous but I wasn't at all. I just knew from talking with him that it would be okay no matter how it turned out.
It was really nice. Good meal, hot coffee, 2+ hours of non-stop conversation and then an hour of walking around and more conversation. Finally a goodbye kiss that was perfect. Not a longgg kiss, not a quick peck either. It's silly I guess but I'm thrilled that XWH is no longer the last person I kissed! 
We texted pleasantly after. Guessing I'll see him again... I'm leaving the ball in his court and honestly fine with whatever happens (or doesn't happen) next. I confirmed today that I don't want and am not ready for anything serious, but some fun dates and a little smooching is definitely okay with me.
So glad to have turned another page in my new beginning! Whether this turns into "something", or becomes a friendship, or is just a one time great morning I spent with a nice guy, I'm so glad I went!
ETA: He just texted and asked me out for tomorrow night.
[This message edited by gypsybird87 at 7:37 PM, October 25th (Friday)]
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 1:10 AM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013
That first kiss post divorce is pretty sweet! Yeay for you!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
*****************************
Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 2:14 AM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013
Yah! Enjoy your second date
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 3:27 AM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013
Glad it was a great time!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 3:52 AM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013
That's great, gypsy! I'm glad it was so good for you.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
curiouswiz ( member #34405) posted at 12:17 PM on Sunday, October 27th, 2013
A kiss! I want a kiss! I want a hug! Yes please.
I'm so happy for you gypsybird! Have a wonderful time on your date!
[This message edited by curiouswiz at 6:18 AM, October 27th (Sunday)]
Blackhair ( member #39451) posted at 1:43 AM on Monday, October 28th, 2013
We are all happy and cheering here for this "First" kiss, it is beginning of a new life!
You deserve it.Go girl!
M: 10 years both late 40s.
3 Children
DDay: April 2013
Legally separated on Oct 2013.
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 2:04 AM on Monday, October 28th, 2013
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
msk99 ( member #29293) posted at 4:13 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2013
Great to hear, congrats!!
BS (Me): 40 STBXWW (Her): 40
M: 15 Years, 2 Awesome Boys
Divorced
Five simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:24 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
ChoosingHope ( member #33606) posted at 6:51 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2013
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 8:17 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2013
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
broken2 ( member #16935) posted at 9:56 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2013
The first kiss after the divorce is the best! It awakens something you thought you would never feel again. Good for you!!!
Confused1829 ( member #32729) posted at 5:29 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
Woot woot!!! So happy for you, you deserve it!!
Here's to many more lovely smooches in your future! "raising glass"
Me: fBW 31
DDays: May 31 2011 & Aug 6 2011. Divorced November 14, 2011 (No Kids)
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 11:50 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
So glad you are happy.
Looking for an update on the second date.......?
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
gypsybird87 (original poster member #39193) posted at 12:03 AM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013
Thanks for all the congrats! I am so not ready to dive into anything serious, but dipping my toe back in the dating pool feels pretty dang good. If nothing else, its great for the ego, which certainly took a beating during the A and D/S.
Both our weekends got a little hectic so we postponed until tomorrow night. Looking forward to it....
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
numbandnauseous ( member #34525) posted at 5:30 AM on Friday, November 1st, 2013
What happened?! Update, please!
BS (me) - 50
WH - 58, EA with HS GF x 2, now deceased
M: 15 years, T: 20, divorced
2 teenage children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
TrulyReconciled ( member #3031) posted at 10:29 PM on Friday, November 1st, 2013
"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."
Blackhair ( member #39451) posted at 12:23 PM on Saturday, November 2nd, 2013
M: 10 years both late 40s.
3 Children
DDay: April 2013
Legally separated on Oct 2013.
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 3:12 AM on Monday, November 4th, 2013
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
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