You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
If you are the one to leave the shared home, make sure you take copies of past tax returns (unless you have them stored by an accountant or on line--I did not.)
I've been asked by a background investigation company to provide a W-2 or pay stub from a company that I left more than 10 years ago! Technically, you don't have to keep tax returns more than 7 years, but in reality, I was a bit anal about finances, so I would have this--but it's 2500 miles away with the X.
I'm not sure how I'll resolve this; not even sure I'll have to--I've been in the job for a week now. But it's something I didn't think about when I separated.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011