We have been in a relationship for 27years & have a son at university. I feel it has all been such a waste.
[This message edited by hangingonin at 10:38 AM, October 26th (Saturday)]
Your next steps should be to a lawyer...even though you are not legality married, you are still common law partners. That means according to the law you have same rights as any BS who shared vows!
You are amazingly strong, I can tell just from your post. Have no fear! The future will be fine and SI is here to support us all!
You have the strength you need. You're not 20, but you've got a lot of life in you yet, and probably a lot of wisdom to help you get through it.
I think the unknown scares just about everybody. Change scares a lot of us (including me). But we all can think and act effectively even when we're scared, and that includes you. Fear is awful, but you'll work through it.
The best way to stay strong is to be gentle with yourself - drink water, eat healthy, positive self-talk, support IRL.
If a hug helps, (((hangingonin)))
I am struggling with R with a fully remorseful WH and I say that if he ever did anything again he would be gone, but I know that is easier said than done. Our lives, our future we had planned are gone and going forward on our own is scary but your WH is not only unremorseful but still betraying you! you deserve better than this.
So he left, just like that! Wow ! 'He' is obviously all that is important to him! The counseling doesn't seem to have helped him?
I'll say it again 'you' deserve better. You are strong and you will get through this. I am in the uk too, so around the same as you, if you need a chat pm me.
[This message edited by shatter-ed at 4:01 AM, October 28th (Monday)]