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Pompous Windbag...Others?

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 Ashland13 (original poster member #38378) posted at 6:39 PM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013

I was just wondering (and hoping not to generalize) about how the XPervert is so much more pompous and arrogant than before, during M, and I wonder if any of you have this going on too?

There are other people complaining about this and it's suspected that it's because he thinks he "won".

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Merlin ( member #30221) posted at 7:45 PM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013

Of course. Self-justification for being a lowlife must be compensated for somehow.

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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 9:08 PM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013

Oh yes-- I've posted several of XWH's stuck-up emails to me on here. He loves trying to be condescending; it must really bug him when he writes one of his puffed-up missives and gets nothing but crickets from me.

Just ignore them, dear. The stuffed shirt is looking for an emotional response from you to feed his need for attention. Don't feed the beast!

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 9:42 PM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013

I reckon they were always pompous arseholes - it is our rose coloured glasses having been smashed that makes them look different to us.

He's still the same douchebag - my tolerance levels have changed dramatically.

The sad clown has been weaned off the ego kibbles thanks to strict NC. He still likes to throw in little barbs here and there but he has largely lost his puff.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 11:45 PM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013

Well, mine has just gone off his rocker crazy.

But he is pretty pompous about it...

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Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 1:45 AM on Sunday, October 27th, 2013

Yes. Particularly the brief time when he was under the delusion that he was beginning a new and better life with OW and his new "friends" but it continued in a more belligerent way when it fell apart and he was trying to convince himself that his life was still better.

The stronger I became the more he shut the hell up. Partly because I went as NC as possible and it didn't give him as much opportunity to be a pompous windbag in my presence but also because he knew I wasn't going to believe or act like I believed any of his BS.

[This message edited by Housefulloflove at 7:46 PM, October 26th (Saturday)]

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FirstLoveGone ( member #25957) posted at 4:32 AM on Sunday, October 27th, 2013

Yes, and I always tolerated it during our M. My bullshit tolerance level is at 0 now that we are Ded. He hates that I stand up to him now.

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Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 4:52 AM on Sunday, October 27th, 2013

XPOS has always been an arrogant ass. I always knew it and would call him the King Asshole when he would do or say something truly horrendous. He always thought I was teasing him as that is his own passive aggressive form of teasing to me. He said he accepted the crown proudly. The real joke was lost on him...I was never just teasing and always meant it. I was just unwilling to lose my marriage for just that reason alone. Thank God he gave me a different reason that worked!

Sad thing is that even my kids think their dad is an arrogant asshole, and have said so over years.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 5:08 AM on Sunday, October 27th, 2013

He's always been an asshole. And others have always described him to me as an arrogant windbag.

We don't talk. I bet I can number ten or less the number of times we've directly communicated since we separated (other than email). I don't know if he's even MORE of a gasbag than before.

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