Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying



Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library


Contact Us
In Association with
Infidelity -
- Forum Archives

like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
Newest Member: jaxonraine (61774)

User Topic: Pompous Windbag...Others?
♀ 38378
Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was just wondering (and hoping not to generalize) about how the XPervert is so much more pompous and arrogant than before, during M, and I wonder if any of you have this going on too?

There are other people complaining about this and it's suspected that it's because he thinks he "won".

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 3034 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
♂ 30221
Member # 30221
Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course. Self-justification for being a lowlife must be compensated for somehow.

"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence

Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11

Posts: 1164 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: East Coast
♀ 33698
Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yes-- I've posted several of XWH's stuck-up emails to me on here. He loves trying to be condescending; it must really bug him when he writes one of his puffed-up missives and gets nothing but crickets from me.

Just ignore them, dear. The stuffed shirt is looking for an emotional response from you to feed his need for attention. Don't feed the beast!

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 4079 | Registered: Oct 2011
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I reckon they were always pompous arseholes - it is our rose coloured glasses having been smashed that makes them look different to us.

He's still the same douchebag - my tolerance levels have changed dramatically.

The sad clown has been weaned off the ego kibbles thanks to strict NC. He still likes to throw in little barbs here and there but he has largely lost his puff.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6010 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
♀ 34697
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, mine has just gone off his rocker crazy.
But he is pretty pompous about it...

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jan 2012
♀ 38458
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. Particularly the brief time when he was under the delusion that he was beginning a new and better life with OW and his new "friends" but it continued in a more belligerent way when it fell apart and he was trying to convince himself that his life was still better.

The stronger I became the more he shut the hell up. Partly because I went as NC as possible and it didn't give him as much opportunity to be a pompous windbag in my presence but also because he knew I wasn't going to believe or act like I believed any of his BS.

[This message edited by Housefulloflove at 7:46 PM, October 26th (Saturday)]

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
♀ 25957
Member # 25957
Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, and I always tolerated it during our M. My bullshit tolerance level is at 0 now that we are Ded. He hates that I stand up to him now.

Posts: 1339 | Registered: Oct 2009
♀ 38928
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

XPOS has always been an arrogant ass. I always knew it and would call him the King Asshole when he would do or say something truly horrendous. He always thought I was teasing him as that is his own passive aggressive form of teasing to me. He said he accepted the crown proudly. The real joke was lost on him...I was never just teasing and always meant it. I was just unwilling to lose my marriage for just that reason alone. Thank God he gave me a different reason that worked!

Sad thing is that even my kids think their dad is an arrogant asshole, and have said so over years.

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 10:54 PM, October 26th (Saturday)]

BS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - 2 adult DDs - DS20 Deceased
Happily divorced!

~Indifference - Because some people do not deserve your emotions.~

I edit often because my tablet is possessed!

Posts: 5081 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Land of Indifference
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's always been an asshole. And others have always described him to me as an arrogant windbag.

We don't talk. I bet I can number ten or less the number of times we've directly communicated since we separated (other than email). I don't know if he's even MORE of a gasbag than before.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Topic Posts: 9

Return to Forum This Topic is Archived
© 2002 - 2017 All Rights Reserved.