Well, I'm new to these forums but I've been lurking for a little while because I've suspected my husband of cheating.
We've been together for 8 years, married 5 of them. I have a DD that is 7 and a baby due any day now. My husband has a long history of alcoholism and we have separated several times now due to infidelity, alcohol, or violence. Last year was our last separation, when he threw me into a wall. He was arrested for domestic battery and pleaded guilty. I foolishly took him back a few months later after various promises of therapy, alcohol rehab, etc.
I got pregnant after we reconciled and I was very optimistic that things would work out and we would finally be a stable loving family. He recently took a job working out of state in the oil field. Needless to say, he has been acting shady lately, only wanting to pay cash for hotels/food, wanting to get a prepaid card, avoiding my calls, ignoring me when he actually does come home, etc.
I looked into his phone last night and noticed his history had been recently wiped, which is a red flag. I went into his email and did some searching and found emails for dating websites in his trash can. I thought maybe it was spam, until I went on and checked.
Sure as hell, he made a profile. He is listed as married, but he wants something discreet. Freaking cake eater!!!!! So I am done. He doesn't know that I know about it, I am hoping if I play this smart I can get the upper hand.
I don't have proof that he has committed adultery, but I know he is trying... Any advice at this point?