Just hit me that the holidays are going to be really hard. We are currently separated and don't know how things are going to work out.
We are together as a family unit a lot and get along well as co-parents. But now that its time to start making plans for who is doing what for the holidays, I am especially sad about the changes in our family.
The kids and I are traveling for the holidays, H is invited but he feels that it would be too awkward to be around my family for a few days. I don't blame him, I understand. I wouldn't want him to feel uncomfortable.
But this is the first holiday we have been 3 instead of 4. And as Christmas approaches I am sure there will be a lot of family events on both sides that one of us will miss.
I would like to bite the bullet and be together for the kids (and our sanity)-forget the grown-ups who don't understand our unique amicable separation. We should write our own rules, and show them how our family is going to look. Not let awkward moments on their part dictate our choices.
But this is new and scary territory for all of us.
Advice on how to make this time of year easier?