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User Topic: Dear Wasband, (vent)
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Flame  Posted: 9:39 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have got to be fucking kidding me.

Today? Today of all fucking days?
Today - mere minutes after we discuss the crisis state that DD is in?
Today - while I am about to drive across the state to sit at my mother's deathbed?
Today - moments after you offer me your condolences?

You pick TODAY, when I am standing, bereft, at the apex of a mountain of grief, fear, exhaustion, and anxiety - this EXACT FUCKING MOMENT is when you choose to attack me over something in our settlement agreement? The settlement agreement that was signed, notarized, filed, and finalized almost TWO FUCKING YEARS AGO???

What the actual fuck???

Fuck you. Fuck your condolences. Fuck your concern about the equity of the fucking debt distribution that you FUCKING AGREED TO AND IS FUCKING FINAL. Fuck you raising your fucking voice to me when I dare disagree with you. Fuck your stupid fucking smirking face. Fuck EVERY FUCKING THING ABOUT YOU.

Un. Fucking. Believable.

You have no idea how close to the edge I am, asshole. You have no fucking idea how lucky you are that I was able to hold myself back from that edge today.

Fuck off.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26175 | Registered: Aug 2011
inconnu
♀ 24518
Member # 24518
Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))) Not only will I hold your earrings, I'll lend you my baseball bat. After I get in a few swings of my own.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12170 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
authenticnow
♀ 16024
Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((NIK))))))))

Fuck that guy.

Sending love and positive energy your way.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38670 | Registered: Sep 2007
MovingUpward
♂ 14866
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52994 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
cayc
♀ 21964
Member # 21964
Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK))))


"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott

Posts: 3152 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
PurpleRose
♀ 33129
Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear NIK,

He is scum on the bottoms of our collective kitten heels. He is a waste of oxygen in our world. His issues surrounding the dissolution of debt are as invalid as his very existence in your life. May he rot in the bowels of the rats who infest satan's basement.

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. Please do not give him one more speck of your time. I'm sorry he is just a POS after all, but that's not telling you anything you didn't already know.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3630 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
devistatedmom
♀ 24961
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))) He has no class at all.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5586 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
dmari
♀ 37215
Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((NIK)))))

I am so sorry you are going through so much right now.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2303 | Registered: Oct 2012
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fuck him.

If you're standing at the edge, that means he is, too. Step aside, sister, so I can push him over. We'll watch him fall. And we'll laugh.

Prick.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10022 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Feeling Consumed
♀ 30592
Member # 30592
Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like it's an impossible task for him to think beyond his own fucking nose. He should be crowned king of narcissists!

Sorry about your Mom. ((((NIK))))


Spent half my life with an Ahole
D final!!! 11-11

"Obladi oblada life goes on...."


Posts: 347 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Wisconsin
jackie89
♀ 38271
Member # 38271
Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((( NIK))))))


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 529 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Phoenix1
♀ 38928
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Once a dick, always a dick!

Fuck.That.Guy!!

And may the earth open up and swallow him whole. The world could use one less asshole!

((NIK))


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1262 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Housefulloflove
♀ 38458
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry NIK!

When a narcissistic asshole knows you are down it's time to brace for the kicks. If they aren't the cause of the pain they want to make sure you're thinking about their pain (since theirs is more important of course.)

Ignore him and focus on what is important while he continues his delusion of being of any significance.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Celticlass
♀ 39518
Member # 39518
Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))) After you and innconu get done with the baseball bat, I'll drive the getaway car to someplace fabulous for celebratory drinks!!

On a serious note, I'm so sorry you are going through this. Go and spend time with your mom, focus your energies where they can do the most good; providing comfort and support for your mom.

Besides, you can kick his ass any old time you want to!

(((NIK's mom)))




Posts: 72 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Lone Star State
gonnabe2016
♀ 34823
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. How awful, and hurtful, that must have been for you. I'm so sorry.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8182 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's your gif. I hope it works.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10022 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for all you're going through, NIK. These arseholes have a real gift when it comes to knowing when to twist the knife.

Fuck him!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
purplejacket4
♀ 34262
Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah a true narcissistic sociopath. It's ALL about him. Jackwagon.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2304 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
JessicaFL127
♀ 26864
Member # 26864
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, October 26th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. What a fuckface. I would absolutely hold your earrings and mysteriously see nothing.....

I'm sorry about your mom.


BW,32
divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


Posts: 1244 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri
Kajem
♀ 36134
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((NIK))))))))

Your focus wasn't on him, he had to change that. Sorry he is pushing your buttons.

More hugs and prayers headed your way
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5532 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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