Why do they both continue to lie. My stbxh has done nothing but lie and lie from the day I found out right up to today, and so does ow.
Little back ground, she lives a couple hours away from me...thank god for that...but I have never met her and have only spoken to her once.
To start off, they have been living together for months before he finally tells me. For all those months before, he is telling me that he isn't seeing anyone and is staying with a friend. Why lie about it? He knew I still had hope that we would be able to work things out, even though he said he didn't want to. If he would have told me the truth I would have been done, and that's what he said he wanted so why not just tell me?
After finding this site and reading a lot on here, I realized that I should have contacted OBS when I had found out about the affair....Understand that I was told by both of them that OBS knew about the affair and that they had been separated since the beginning of the year and were in fact getting a divorce....um no. I was also told be my stbxh that she was on her second marriage...um no.
It took me awhile to figure out who the OBS was...after finding out that she was on husband #3, not #2 I was able to figure out who he was. I contacted him to apologize for not contacting him when I found out and letting him know that if he still had any unanswered questions I would tell him what I knew....he did not know about the affair, they were not getting a divorce and though they were currently separated he did not know that my stbxh and his wife were living together and had been since they separated, which was not at the first of the year as I was told.
He contacts his wife and she denies that she is living with stbxh and continues to do so for a couple of weeks, and then tells him it isn't what it seems.
STBXH contacts me pissed that I contacted OBS and was very adamant in telling me that they had been separated for 9 months and OBS knows about everything...um no. I tell him that if that was true then why is stbxh calling me?
OBS did tell me that ow lies a lot also and that when they started dating she told him that she was divorced, and he found out some time later that she was in fact not divorced, just separated from her then 2nd husband.
I honestly don't get what game they are playing? But I do know that they are both going to be divorced soon. Both stbxh and ow were served papers last week.