I think your gut-feeling is right @ losing the anger.
That is good - moving on!
The washer/dryer may be you're wondering if he's cleaning his shit up
& being with a friend = it's "ok" to still have occasional curiosity about whether or not he's doing that...you're "safe" wondering/checking it out...it's ok...mundane, actually.
I like this dream for you.
Last time I had a dream @ xpet, I was at a friend's and she drove up, got out of the car, and saw me through the window - she screamed; "Oh my God!"
& it woke me up!