I am not sure if this belongs here or in another forum but I need to vent. My divorce has been final since Jan. Since that time my ex H has kept my dog because I no longer own a home - I love in an apartment thats "no pets". He begged me not to give her away and said he would take care of her.
He 'was' living happily ever after with his ho-worker he cheated on me with and they moved out of province about a month ago. In the past couple weeks he has been sending me random texts about the dog. I had a feeling something was up. No surprise I creeped her FB and it would appear they are broken up. He is moving back here. Last time they split up he called me begging me back I told him it would never happen. I think thats what he is up to again. I am really stressed, I would block his calls but I am worried about my dog.
What makes him think after putting me through hell during our entire relationship including before, during and after marriage that I am interested in him at all?? He knows the dog thing is holding me hostage. I just want to scream at him that its his fucking fault I don't own a house anymore. I can't buy my own house because financially they are out of reach for me on my own!! I just want him to fuck off already. I am dreading him moving back to this area!! He wanted the divorce because he thought life with the ho was so wonderful, now he is finding out otherwise.
No part of me will ever go back to his abusive bullshit. I appreciate that he is keeping my dog but thats about it. I am finally enjoying my freedom but in the end he still has a hold on me. I hate this shit. I don't know how to deal with this. Do I go no contact? I won't answer his calls, I only accept texts right now. Anyone else out here in SI land experience anything like this? Where your ex tries to get you back? Me: BW 38, Him: WH 37
Divorce Granted on December 5, 2012 - fasted divorce ever (thanks to my good lawyer) and I am not looking back with ANY regrets!!
PS...sorry for any spelling errors or missing letters etc..... ty