Me: BW (35)
Thank heavens they have you for a Mama.
Thanks I really feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders, trying to not only be a good mom but make up for ALL the deficiencies in exwh. The sad thing is OW is still in the picture. She doesn't have any kids but wants them. She has no idea how to be a good parent. She obviously has no morals,lies a lot (even in court.. I subpoenaed her), and continues to.... Well.... Breath. I'm grateful that she is nice to the kids but exwh needs to be the one involved with them when they are there for HIS visitation.
The sad thing is exwh has been traumatized by the abuse from his father during childhood. He promised he would never do that to his own children. Yet here we are and he emotionally abuses them. It breaks my heart to see how exwh treats the kids. He ignored dd during FaceTime until she was about 2. She would sit watching and hearing exwh talk to DS. She would call for dada and he wouldn't say anything to her AT.ALL. Now his conversations with her consist of "you're such a pretty girl" I found out during false R that he shook DS as a baby. No one lays a hand on MY babies!
I'm so glad SO has been willing to fill the void. He never wants to replace their dad just be a supporting role. Tonight dd didn't want to talk to her dad but she wanted to talk to SO.
I can't say enough how grateful I am to find such a wonderful man who loves me and my children. He treats them so well. It broke his heart to hear my DS cried for him when he left. He doesn't do things for the kids so that people can pat him on the pack... He does it because he genuinely cares for them. He spent 1.5 hours talking to DS when he was frightened about having to get a cavity fixed. He drops everything when my kids want to talk to him. I am truly blessed. I hope SO is able to show them what a true man is suppose to act like.
[This message edited by courageous at 9:46 PM, October 28th (Monday)]
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012
Exwh married his AP
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