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Of course ex-shat wasn't there when I picked Teslet up tonight. Sounds like super-dad's quality time with Teslet was playing some video games with him.

Just before bed, Teslet gets teary eyed, "Mom, why did you throw away my butterfly game." Wha?? Butterfly game was from when he was 3 (he's about to be 5)...I think it ended up going to good will, like most toys that he has out-grown.
Then he says, "Dad says that you throw away all the toys that he gives me."

FTG. Anything he sends over gets sent the fuck back at the next convenient opportunity.
But of course that fucker is going to start lying to my son. He lies to everyone else and I guess that since they all believe his bullshit, he thinks it will actually work on his son.
Fuck. That. Guy.
Talking shit about his mother is going to fucking backfire on ex-shat's ass.

[This message edited by tesla at 9:49 PM, October 27th (Sunday)]

Tesla,

Sounds like this is an opportune time to teach teslet about donating items no longer used so others can play with them.

That way teslet can correct dear old dads lies.

Hugs,
K

I have said, over and over, how thankful I am the A and D didn't happen when we had young children. It was difficult enough wading through the mess with adult daughters whose hearts were broken by their lying, cheating father / HE ruined his relationship with them / but they were/are adults and understood what was going on, I sure didn't have to explain anything to them. Had they been younger, if I had been forced to deal with everything you younger mothers are facing.... I'm just not sure I could have done it. An adult parent who would lie to his/her small child about ANYTHING is the lowest of the low. But to dishonor the other parent ? That's beyond low. It's ignorant. That's what ignorant, self-serving individuals do. Ignorant and selfish. Some people do not deserve to be parents. It's that simple. Sending hugs to you for today and for every other day you have to deal with this moron's idiocy.

What an arsehole!

Yep - we've had:

Mummy kissed other men - that's why we're not all together.
Mummy stole all of my money.
Mummy doesn't feed you right.
Mummy is mean to Whaura.
Mummy has a boyfriend so you'll be living with me more soon.

Just off the top of my head .

Not to mention the constant sending messages to me through my 5 year old. I've told her and him I won't be actioning any requests this way. She is 5, very sensitive, a daydreamer AND blames herself whenever he or I miss something. I explained that it is not her job. It is ours.

Fuck.That.Guy indeed.

I don't tell her he lies. I tell her everyone has a different opinion and I do not believe his. I tell her the truth and we also talk through the logic of all of the info she has put together herself. She can make her own mind up. We've had some funny laughs about his sillier rants.

She has already started complaining about how he pumps her for info. She asked why I didn't ask about him. I said because he is none of my beeswax - I'm interested in the girls, not him.

She said she likes it that I don't try to make her remember everything she did over there and everything he was doing.

My girls will be wives and mothers one day. Your son will be a husband and father. They will know exactly what this shit is well before then but they will definitely hold them accountable for telling lies and speaking ill of the other parent.

Fucking arsehole.

[This message edited by SBB at 10:47 PM, October 27th (Sunday)]

I'm freaking out reading about other parents lying to their kids like my STBX does. I'm pissed & broken-hearted. It's so hard to counter the lies while not totally trashing the stupid parent in the process.

Yoohoo - If everyone has finished taking their bats to NIKs exPOS wasband we could use them here on ex-shat please.

FTG

So many dicks needing an attitude adjustment, so few hours in a day... sigh

Yep, I have to say that when my sons tell me something their dad has said, I try to say how it's two perspectives.

F these guys playing head games with their own children. SICK mfs.

I also hate it when they DON'T tell me what is said --- I still freak over what mind games he is doing to them that I can't counteract.