Yep - we've had:
Mummy kissed other men - that's why we're not all together.
Mummy stole all of my money.
Mummy doesn't feed you right.
Mummy is mean to Whaura.
Mummy has a boyfriend so you'll be living with me more soon.
Just off the top of my head .
Not to mention the constant sending messages to me through my 5 year old. I've told her and him I won't be actioning any requests this way. She is 5, very sensitive, a daydreamer AND blames herself whenever he or I miss something. I explained that it is not her job. It is ours.
I don't tell her he lies. I tell her everyone has a different opinion and I do not believe his. I tell her the truth and we also talk through the logic of all of the info she has put together herself. She can make her own mind up. We've had some funny laughs about his sillier rants.
She has already started complaining about how he pumps her for info. She asked why I didn't ask about him. I said because he is none of my beeswax - I'm interested in the girls, not him.
She said she likes it that I don't try to make her remember everything she did over there and everything he was doing.
My girls will be wives and mothers one day. Your son will be a husband and father. They will know exactly what this shit is well before then but they will definitely hold them accountable for telling lies and speaking ill of the other parent.
[This message edited by SBB at 10:47 PM, October 27th (Sunday)]