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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course ex-shat wasn't there when I picked Teslet up tonight. Sounds like super-dad's quality time with Teslet was playing some video games with him.

Just before bed, Teslet gets teary eyed, "Mom, why did you throw away my butterfly game." Wha?? Butterfly game was from when he was 3 (he's about to be 5)...I think it ended up going to good will, like most toys that he has out-grown.
Then he says, "Dad says that you throw away all the toys that he gives me."

FTG. Anything he sends over gets sent the fuck back at the next convenient opportunity.
But of course that fucker is going to start lying to my son. He lies to everyone else and I guess that since they all believe his bullshit, he thinks it will actually work on his son.
Fuck. That. Guy.
Talking shit about his mother is going to fucking backfire on ex-shat's ass.

[This message edited by tesla at 9:49 PM, October 27th (Sunday)]

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jan 2012
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Sounds like this is an opportune time to teach teslet about donating items no longer used so others can play with them.

That way teslet can correct dear old dads lies.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 6708 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have said, over and over, how thankful I am the A and D didn't happen when we had young children. It was difficult enough wading through the mess with adult daughters whose hearts were broken by their lying, cheating father / HE ruined his relationship with them / but they were/are adults and understood what was going on, I sure didn't have to explain anything to them. Had they been younger, if I had been forced to deal with everything you younger mothers are facing.... I'm just not sure I could have done it. An adult parent who would lie to his/her small child about ANYTHING is the lowest of the low. But to dishonor the other parent ? That's beyond low. It's ignorant. That's what ignorant, self-serving individuals do. Ignorant and selfish. Some people do not deserve to be parents. It's that simple. Sending hugs to you for today and for every other day you have to deal with this moron's idiocy.

D-Day: 8/28/2009
BW: 59 @ D-Day XH: 60 @ D-Day Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
Beyond terror is freedom. (Agnes Martin)

Posts: 1239 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Missouri
♂ 38122
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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What an arsehole!

Me: 1970
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?

Married Aug/95
DDay Nov/12
Separated Mar/13
Finally divorced Jul/17

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 3583 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
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Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep - we've had:

Mummy kissed other men - that's why we're not all together.
Mummy stole all of my money.
Mummy doesn't feed you right.
Mummy is mean to Whaura.
Mummy has a boyfriend so you'll be living with me more soon.

Just off the top of my head .

Not to mention the constant sending messages to me through my 5 year old. I've told her and him I won't be actioning any requests this way. She is 5, very sensitive, a daydreamer AND blames herself whenever he or I miss something. I explained that it is not her job. It is ours.

Fuck.That.Guy indeed.

I don't tell her he lies. I tell her everyone has a different opinion and I do not believe his. I tell her the truth and we also talk through the logic of all of the info she has put together herself. She can make her own mind up. We've had some funny laughs about his sillier rants.

She has already started complaining about how he pumps her for info. She asked why I didn't ask about him. I said because he is none of my beeswax - I'm interested in the girls, not him.

She said she likes it that I don't try to make her remember everything she did over there and everything he was doing.

My girls will be wives and mothers one day. Your son will be a husband and father. They will know exactly what this shit is well before then but they will definitely hold them accountable for telling lies and speaking ill of the other parent.

Fucking arsehole.

[This message edited by SBB at 10:47 PM, October 27th (Sunday)]

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6004 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 12:04 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm freaking out reading about other parents lying to their kids like my STBX does. I'm pissed & broken-hearted. It's so hard to counter the lies while not totally trashing the stupid parent in the process.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 3:36 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yoohoo - If everyone has finished taking their bats to NIKs exPOS wasband we could use them here on ex-shat please.


So many dicks needing an attitude adjustment, so few hours in a day... sigh

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

Posts: 759 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, I have to say that when my sons tell me something their dad has said, I try to say how it's two perspectives.

F these guys playing head games with their own children. SICK mfs.

I also hate it when they DON'T tell me what is said --- I still freak over what mind games he is doing to them that I can't counteract.

Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child.
Dday 12/19/11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!
D final10/30/2012

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