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careerlady posted 10/27/2013 22:31 PM

I am pretty sure there is another A. Just need a few more details. We've had a horrible round and I never got true remorse and he has reneged on counseling again anyway and the verbal abuse persists, so this is it. I found out about the new OW this weekend during a family trip to the in laws. Next week I resurrect my filed divorce and finally have him served. He has no idea. During the walk in the boardwalk and the dinner I had times when I thought this family is worth anything, but I can't put up with both serial cheating and his ill treatment of me, however badly I wanted a complete family for our 15 month old. This has hot to be it, though it breaks my heart.

Tomorrow I gotta call OW and the court. Tonight I just want to cry.

Pass posted 10/27/2013 22:34 PM

I'm sorry you're going through this.

Lyonesse posted 10/27/2013 22:42 PM

Hugs, CL. You are right, you cannot continue with the disrespect to you, but I know that doesn't make it any easier.

rainagain posted 10/27/2013 22:48 PM

I'm sorry cl, you and your baby deserve more. It sounds like you are setting out to provide that for you both now. Strength.

vivere posted 10/27/2013 22:59 PM


I can't put up with both serial cheating and his ill treatment of me

..and neither should you!

Abuse in any form is unacceptable. Sometimes they force our hands

forlornheart posted 10/27/2013 23:51 PM

It's actually a better time to get the divorce over as she's still very young. I know she will recognize his not around but she's just too young to grasp what's happenings. Can you image if you waited another 10 years or even 5? My stbx was a serial cheater as well, I stayed far too long. I just didn't respect myself enough or fear or maybe a combo of both.

Good for you sticking up for yourself.
I know it hurts, even with all I know I'm still hurt. I love the man I thought he was....but it was all a persona.

Get some counseling it will help.


thenon-goddess posted 10/28/2013 07:33 AM

I'm so sorry.

FWIW, I would call the court and not the OW. She'll just tip your husband off and fill you full of lies. Don't even give her the satisfaction.


msk99 posted 10/28/2013 10:16 AM

So sorry to hear about this, I totally get the internal battle of doing whatever you can to maintain your family versus dealing with a serial cheater. You are not alone in this battle, heartbreaking for sure.

Stay strong!

nowiknow23 posted 10/28/2013 10:25 AM

((((careerlady)))) Sending you strength, honey.

sunsetslost posted 10/28/2013 10:49 AM


Strength to you.

careerlady posted 10/28/2013 11:03 AM

Thanks all.

Thenongoddess from the texts and one voicemail I've found she doesn't seem to know he's married. I could be wrong which is why I'm trying to capture more texts but if she's innocent she can be the final nail in the coffin. The previous OW was also unaware and we had a good (if painful) conversation

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