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Topic: Just went to our last dinner as a family.
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careerlady
♀ 16958
Member # 16958 |  Posted: 10:31 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013 |     |
I am pretty sure there is another A. Just need a few more details. We've had a horrible round and I never got true remorse and he has reneged on counseling again anyway and the verbal abuse persists, so this is it. I found out about the new OW this weekend during a family trip to the in laws. Next week I resurrect my filed divorce and finally have him served. He has no idea. During the walk in the boardwalk and the dinner I had times when I thought this family is worth anything, but I can't put up with both serial cheating and his ill treatment of me, however badly I wanted a complete family for our 15 month old. This has hot to be it, though it breaks my heart.
Tomorrow I gotta call OW and the court. Tonight I just want to cry. 
Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI
Posts: 943 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California |
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122 | | Posted: 10:34 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013 | |
I'm sorry you're going through this.
Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
Posts: 2158 | Registered: Jan 2013 |
Lyonesse
♀ 32943
Member # 32943 | | Posted: 10:42 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013 | |
Hugs, CL. You are right, you cannot continue with the disrespect to you, but I know that doesn't make it any easier.
Me: BS, 40's.
Posts: 1841 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast |
rainagain
♀ 14917
Member # 14917 | | Posted: 10:48 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013 | |
I'm sorry cl, you and your baby deserve more. It sounds like you are setting out to provide that for you both now. Strength.
Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:1
I done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love. Maino
Me: Divorced BS 49
DS22, DD19, DS17
Posts: 1299 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Massachusetts |
vivere
♀ 34465
Member # 34465 | | Posted: 10:59 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013 | |
((CL))
I can't put up with both serial cheating and his ill treatment of me
..and neither should you!
Abuse in any form is unacceptable. Sometimes they force our hands 
You are responsible for your own happiness :)
Posts: 316 | Registered: Jan 2012 |
forlornheart
♀ 40726
Member # 40726 | | Posted: 11:51 PM, October 27th (Sunday), 2013 | |
It's actually a better time to get the divorce over as she's still very young. I know she will recognize his not around but she's just too young to grasp what's happenings. Can you image if you waited another 10 years or even 5? My stbx was a serial cheater as well, I stayed far too long. I just didn't respect myself enough or fear or maybe a combo of both.
Good for you sticking up for yourself.
I know it hurts, even with all I know I'm still hurt. I love the man I thought he was....but it was all a persona.
Get some counseling it will help.
Hugs!
Deb
Me: 48- BW
Him: 45-WH-chronic cheater, PA and EA
Current Her: Mid to late 30's fatassed, no necked, troglodyte
D Day: August 23, 2013
Separated: August 23, 2013
Posts: 52 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Michigan |
thenon-goddess
♀ 31229
Member # 31229 | | Posted: 7:33 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013 | |
I'm so sorry.
FWIW, I would call the court and not the OW. She'll just tip your husband off and fill you full of lies. Don't even give her the satisfaction.
(((CL)))
Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!
Posts: 1267 | Registered: Feb 2011 |
msk99
♂ 29293
Member # 29293 | | Posted: 10:16 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013 | |
So sorry to hear about this, I totally get the internal battle of doing whatever you can to maintain your family versus dealing with a serial cheater. You are not alone in this battle, heartbreaking for sure.
Stay strong!
BS (Me): 40 STBXWW (Her): 40
M: 15 Years, 2 Awesome Boys
Divorced
Five simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
Posts: 712 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Alberta |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 10:25 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013 | |
((((careerlady)))) Sending you strength, honey.
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28388 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
sunsetslost
♂ 39885
Member # 39885 | | Posted: 10:49 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013 | |
(((cl)))
Strength to you.
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
Posts: 793 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach. |
careerlady
♀ 16958
Member # 16958 | | Posted: 11:03 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013 | |
Thanks all.
Thenongoddess from the texts and one voicemail I've found she doesn't seem to know he's married. I could be wrong which is why I'm trying to capture more texts but if she's innocent she can be the final nail in the coffin. The previous OW was also unaware and we had a good (if painful) conversation
Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI
Posts: 943 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California |
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