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User Topic: His ex. Again.
JanaGreen
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Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 4:03 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG you guys. It is 4:30 in the morning. I just got up to pee & looked at my phone. Remember my husband's ex - the one he was chatting with during the year from hell (2012)? The one who sent me a Linked In connection request? I had just about decided to believe that was some fluke, that she had some sort of setting that automatically sent out requests to anyone in her extended network or whatever. Um. That bitch sent me a Facebook friend request. Two hours ago. So at 2:30 on Monday morning she sent me a friend request. What the everloving FUCK is her deal? I have never met her. She is blocked off my husband's page. My heart is pounding and my adrenalin is up! What the hell???? I just grabbed my husband's phone and scoured it. Nothing in there from her. I honestly don't believe they've been in contact. I just think she's a fucking inappropriate nut. I'm attempting to NOT send her a message until I calm down.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6962 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
Raven96
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Member # 40298
Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If it isn't too late, don't message her. Don't do anything except not accept the friend request.

I think she is fishing. She can't get to him, so she's trying to get to him through you.

Ignoring her will be more effective in pissing her off.

(((Jana)))


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

Posts: 379 | Registered: Aug 2013
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Raven.

I'm calmer now - although I'm a little mad that my sleep got messed up.

I feel like we've constructed this snug little house now, with my H, me, and Baby Green, and here she is outside with a crowbar trying to pry off a board so she can peek inside.

She was never an affair partner but still. Ugh. Inappropriate.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6962 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
MrsDoubtfire
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Member # 24786
Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crickets Jana but take a screen shot of the request just in case you ever need a 'cease and desist' letter sending out as this will be evidence!

What is wrong with these women?


BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć

Posts: 1593 | Registered: Jul 2009
JanaGreen
♀ 29341
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ohhh good call on the screenshot.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6962 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So there is no way that sending a message is a good move, right?

I am avoiding any action (other than changing my profile to a pic of me & my H) until I am completely calm. That hasn't happened yet.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6962 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
LifeIsBroken
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't give her the satisfaction of any kind of acknowledgment from you. She doesn't care what you think or that any missive from her upsets you. Ignore her. She's not worth it. Ignoring her will frustrate her more than anything you could write back to her. WHY are these skanks so desperate as to go after married men ? They must have zero pride in themselves. It stinks. THEY stink.


BW: 59
XH: 60
Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
MOW: 50 (she said she wanted a sugar daddy; xh said, "I'M HIM!")
Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Missouri & Massachusetts
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My brain has some select things bubbling around for a good response to her, but as we all know the best response is crickets. (PS - Do you have a picture of you and H kissing. That would make an even BETTER profile pic.)

I'm glad you posted this in General so I can say that she is a dumb hooker.


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Posts: 18670 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She was probably drunk, JG.
Delete or ignore or whatever the heck you do when you don't want someone to be your 'friend'. And don't change your page at all.

Ignore. *crickets*. "Move along, lunatic, nothing to see here".......


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8251 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So hard not to respond but that is best.

Just to get it out...What would you like to say to this virtual peeping Tomi?

Would it help to unload here instead of responding to her fishing attempt?


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Apr 2009
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I don't want to violate the terms of this site, but I will say that I doubt she was drunk due to her belief system, which she plasters all over her FB page. It seems like someone who is all about said belief system would also believe that she should not try to tear asunder a marriage, but maybe she doesn't see it that way.

She's either really stupid, completely nuts, or totally conniving. I know nothing physical happened between them, and maybe she sees their little friendship rekindling as innocent, although I'm sure she was hoping for more after the divorce was final. What she doesn't realize is that she was one of many women he was talking to at the time. She IS the only one who's tried to butt into my life twice since, though.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6962 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just ignore her. That is the best thing to do. If you ignore the drama llama she will eventually go away. I know it is hard to do, but it is for the best.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Divorcing as soon as I can as he is still cheating with OW

Posts: 2472 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just can't get over the fact that she is FORTY THREE YEARS OLD and doing this. Gah.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6962 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
Raven96
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry...tried to edit a typo and accidentally double-posted.

[This message edited by Raven96 at 8:19 AM, October 29th (Tuesday)]


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

Posts: 379 | Registered: Aug 2013
Raven96
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Her age doesn't matter, although it should.

I know it is SO HARD not to respond, but silence will speak volumes! I made the mistake of emailing WH/AP's secret email from my own email account saying that she can have my WH, that if she wants my life so bad she can have it. She didn't respond (it was supposedly over by then), and to this day I regret doing that, because I feel like I gave her the upperhand. In my defense, I didn't know about this site yet, and I really was ready to hand her the keys to my life.

Now that we are R'ing, I really wish I hadn't done that.


Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

Posts: 379 | Registered: Aug 2013
MrsDoubtfire
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crickets are your best friend right now.

Any response you take will just feed that vampire insect who will then skuttle out of the woodwork to feed on you and no amount of splatting with a magazine will squish that kind of hideous.

Put said magazine down and tickle that crickets tum until the urge to unleash the hell demon has gone.


BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć

Posts: 1593 | Registered: Jul 2009
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm trying to get there mentally. I'm sure you ladies are right, that crickets are the best reply - I'm just sitting on my hands (not replying or blocking) until I get there.

I'm just glad she did this in October 2013 vs. October 2012, because my 2012 version would not be capable of not replying immediately. I'm proud of my restraint at this point.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6962 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why don't you have her blocked on FB?

I have all of my X's OWmen blocked - at least those I know of.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21116 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
strongerdaybyday
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you posted this in General so I can say that she is a dumb hooker.

I tried to block my H's OW but she blocked me! At least I think she did because it won't let me block her (her name - at least the fake name she's using won't come up) And then she has FB page so super private she's generally hard to find. I guess she fucked with more then one married man and their family. Stupid whore.

SORRY total t/j I just meant to say - ignore it. They thrive off of the drama they create.

[This message edited by strongerdaybyday at 10:33 AM, October 29th (Tuesday)]


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


Posts: 387 | Registered: Aug 2013
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not sure why I didn't block her. I think there was an element of wanting to keep an "eye" on her just in case, but effectively I just left myself open for contact, I guess.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6962 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
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