I was so shattered I had no interest in anything. Then slowly I started to emerge, because my DS encouraged me to walk in the Bluenose Marthon, which then turned to running.
I started to feel better and found new interests and new friends (the old ones kinda dissapeared after the separation).
But I do remember those dark days of just existing. It sucks.
As for meeting friends, go volunteer, if you are religious start going to a new church, look for social events in your are on meetup. It takes awhile to get going and there will be setbacks but it's worth it.
Start a bucket list. I always thought I would travel - but kids, homeschooling, no money... we never did. So mine was mostly travel - and initially a pipe dream for way down the road. Still I signed up a travelzoo, watched for deals, and in the meantime I cut out pictures of where I wanted to go someday and what I wanted to see. Pinterest was a good place to explore for that.
Just getting to that list now. Carribean - check. Iceland is on deck.
Smaller things - learn to play poker, go to a concert, a play, read more, eat out more...
I will be moving again soon and then Christmas but after this busy period my goal is to start find things I like to do, even small things to start with hopefully that will help.
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Keep trying new things. I know some people have had success with meetup.com groups. If there's a cause you believe in, volunteer there. Look in the local newspaper (or town website) for weekend events that might be interesting (it seems to be Fall/Harvest/apple/pumpkin Festival season these days). Unfortunately, it does take time I still see an IC every few weeks, and that helps, too.
[This message edited by ISPIFFD at 4:38 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]