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PurpleRose posted 10/28/2013 20:52 PM

So the Dooosh doesn't see or speak to our daughters. Neither one of the girls care to speak to him at this point so that's pretty much a moot point now.

I didn't think he'd do the same to our son- the golden child. The only child left who gives him the time of day (and much of it is because when he goes for visitation, we have a Disney Dad in full effect, but I digress...)

It's funny how their stripes never change, eh? Son was very upset last week. Called me at almost 9pm. From his dad's car. In a parking lot! My son is 10, and should have been home getting ready for bed, but instead he had spent much of the afternoon at the dooosh's office, and then the rest of the evening at the ball field so dad could play in a rec league of drunk, fat, old guys trying to pretend they are athletes.

My son was upset because he still had homework to do. Dad didn't care, refused to leave early. Father of the year! I was so sad for my little guy, but just kept trying to reassure him. He wanted me to call his teacher to tell her why it wouldn't be done.

He was stressed!

I cannot believe he has to play ball on the one weeknight he has his child. FTG.

When I woke up the next morning I had missed a text saying "goodnight Mom! Just finished all my homework. See you in the morning,"

It was 12:09 am.

And so it begins. He has told my son he can "stay with mom on Thursday if you want!"

When my son resisted, the dooosh practically insisted. Told him it was fine, they would see each other on the weekend. He will email mom to let her know.

Whatever. Dooosh.

I'm sure he has a date with his cow lined up. Hope he chokes on her all beef patties.

[This message edited by PurpleRose at 8:54 PM, October 28th (Monday)]

Pass posted 10/28/2013 22:33 PM

That's just fucked up! I'm pissed off for you and your kids. It may break your son's heart now, but may remove a lot of stress from his life if he doesn't see his dad on those nights.

It's a shame when the ten-year-old has to be the parent in the relationship.

LifeIsBroken posted 10/28/2013 22:38 PM

I'm sad for you and your children, PR. When the time comes (and surely it will) when your son no longer wants to visit ol' dad at all, ol' dad will find a way to blame you for the alienation. Because it most definitely won't be anything ol' dad did. It's a hard world for the children (of any age) to face when they realize they weren't a parent's priority. Give your son an extra hug each day: one from you and one from the father he'll eventually wish he had.

Housefulloflove posted 10/28/2013 22:46 PM

I'm sorry PR. It's hard to imagine how a person can be so messed up that they can't even put their own children ahead of themselves for one damn day!

gonnabe2016 posted 10/29/2013 00:10 AM

A 10 year old sends you a text at 12:09am saying that he's just finished his homework??? WTF is wrong with Doosh? (rhetorical question).

However. Why couldn't your son have done his homework while he had that downtime of hanging out at Doosh's office and the rink?

beachbunny posted 10/29/2013 06:11 AM

It's a hard world for the children (of any age) to face when they realize they weren't a parent's priority.

This.

But this is why we are here, yes?

To quote my IC

"Why are you shocked?"

(rhetorical here
)

[This message edited by beachbunny at 6:12 AM, October 29th (Tuesday)]

SBB posted 10/29/2013 06:33 AM

Bless his little heart. Poor little guy - that makes me sick to my stomach.

Imagine being more of a grown up at 10 than your fuckwit of a father.

((PR & DS - DDs too))

shiloe posted 10/29/2013 06:59 AM

a rec league of drunk, fat, old guys trying to pretend they are athletes.

nowiknow23 posted 10/29/2013 09:02 AM

((((DS))))

Gemini71 posted 10/29/2013 11:00 AM

My STBX is the same way about his 'church league' sports. (To bad the part about 'thou shalt not covet' didn't rub off) He actually arranged his visitation schedule around his recreation schedule.

Poor DS. It's gotta suck to realize his dad would rather play than be a parent. But this is what brought us all here to SI in the first place, a selfish person that puts themselves before others, even their family. Thank God DS has you!

PurpleRose posted 10/29/2013 18:25 PM


However. Why couldn't your son have done his homework while he had that downtime of hanging out at Doosh's office and the rink?

This is one of those excellent questions that I just cannot answer. You (a general you) would assume many things here:
1. 10 year old can manage time wisely while with his dad.
2. The adult in charge was actually in charge.
3. The adult in charge had the forethought to make sure his son got his homework done early- knowing there wouldn't be time later.
4. Son had access to a computer to complete the work.
5. Disney Dad understands how time consuming son's homework load has gotten this year and doesn't leave it until 10pm!

Unfortunately those are a lot of assumptions. An most of them would probably not be true statements anyway....

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