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Dday was 1 year ago tomorrow and I'm feeling

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Douchebagfree posted 10/28/2013 21:05 PM

Relieved!

So much has happened the past year that it still makes my head spin. From him walking out to find his own happiness (which he found between the legs of his 22year old coworker), to the lies he told and finally, the baby they had 9.5 months after I asked him to move out.

Sometimes I feel like I never knew this man at all. I'm glad that I was privy to read all of their texts for an entire month, because I finally found out who he really is. A sad excuse of a man who uses the same game to lure his next victim. From the stupid love notes, the poems I'm sure he copied from the net. This man really believes that changing the player will change the game.

I still kick myself for ignoring the big red warning sign 3 years ago when he was caught kissing a coworkers wife at my Christmas. Shame on me for not kicking his ass out then. I was stupid and felt sorry for him when he cried and said he was broken. I now understand the true meaning of that comment and I feel sorry for him. And for her.

Our official separation date is Nov 9. He hasn't made any attempt at filling divorce papers so I guess I'll be the one to handle that, just like I've done with everything else over the past 8 years. Then again, I guess I should expect this from a guy who I had to tell that he had the wedding date wrong on the separation agreement

I wish them all the happiness they deserve.

sunsetslost posted 10/28/2013 21:07 PM

Awesome. Just awesome. Good for you. File. Get it done. Do something nice for yourself tomorrow and let us know what it was.

Pass posted 10/28/2013 22:27 PM

That's cool, DBF. My DDay anniversary is also approaching (Nov 15), and I'm trying to make a plan of what to do. A couple ideas I've had:

- Go get a massage.
- Go get drunk with friends.

Maybe one after the other.

dmari posted 10/29/2013 00:41 AM

Yay! High Five! So proud of you! You sound like you are in a good place ~ continue to move forward!!

SBB posted 10/29/2013 06:37 AM

I now understand the true meaning of that comment and I feel sorry for him. And for her.

Me too, friend. Me too.

Almost 2 years for me and it feels like a lifetime ago. That first year was tough with all of the firsts but I'm happy to say this second year has been far easier.

I made the sad clown sort out the D. Let him do the running around considering how much he seems to like 'running around'. I think he thought I'd save him $800. Pfft - I wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire. I would probably call the fire people. Its the least I could do.

Dawn58 posted 10/29/2013 06:49 AM

My dday is 11.25, so will be coming up on the year anniversary soon.

I have my first mediation meeting tomorrow. I filed last January, so it's taken a long time.

I feel the same as you, that I never really knew this man. I certainly thought I knew him, but sadly, I did not.

My STBX has been engaged to the OW for months now. People tell me she is after his money. He thinks he has found his "soul mate". Funny, that is what he told me eight years ago.......

movingforward13 posted 10/30/2013 09:47 AM

I been thinking about you chickie *hugs*

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