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User Topic: Checking in with old-timers
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Happy  Posted: 9:07 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Checking in to see how old timers are doing. I rolled through some threads and didn't see any names I recognize. Wondered if anyone has heard from DCK, Click, OnlyOne.......can't remember any other user names, but remember situations.

My peanut bounced back from the horrible years following affair/divorce. She's now a sophomore and just an amazing kid. I'm in a wonderful (HEALTHY!) relationship with XH's former best friend (best man in our wedding).......funny how things turn out sometimes.

I recommended this site to a girl at work today. I was sad to see there are now 41k+ members. It's great people have found this place, just so sad that there is a need

Very happy, the rest doesn't matter anymore.

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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DCK has a thread in Off Topic. Glad you're doing good, yeah, it is so ironic how things turn out sometimes! Best wishes!

~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"

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Hearthache again
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not an old-timer but I sure do feel like it. Been dealing with A related stuff since 2007.

Glad to see some positive stories in General. And yes it is sad the number of members there is on here but it speaks about how great this place is for us going through infidelity hell.

[This message edited by Hearthache again at 9:56 PM, October 28th (Monday)]

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Kids 4: 17, 14, 10, and 5
DDay#1 9-26-2008 Dday#2 4-26-2010
We have R!!! But I still hate the number 26!

This too shall pass
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you mean click4it?

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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, October 28th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Lucie!!

I am so glad to hear about peanut. I remember what a rough time she was having.

I'm so happy for you!!!!

Red Headed Imps 14 & 11
DDay 1/05
Divorce final 6/21/06
My new life is GRAND.
Married my new beginning 6/09

Posts: 2321 | Registered: Jul 2005 | From: Greater Seattle Area
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Default  Posted: 1:27 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember your stories about you and peanut, Lucie. I remember you went back and forth quite a bit. I'm glad you are happy now. Wow...a sophomore. Time flies.

"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson

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Default  Posted: 2:08 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Lucie!
Peanut is NOT a sophomore! That doesn't seem possible. Wow!

Glad to hear you're doing well.

*I survived Infidelity*

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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad to hear Peanut is doing well - and you too!

There is life after all this mess.


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, October 29th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Crushed1, I found thread! I hope you are doing well.

Heartache, sorry you find yourself here & hope things are going well for you.

BP!!! I have vague memories of a mountain top I right? How are your kids? Son and daughter if I remember correctly.

Tears, Sad & NL.....yes a sophomore! I can't believe how fast they grow. Sheesh...was she in 2nd grade when this started? Maybe 3rd? It feels like a lifetime ago.

Amazing how the worst thing I've been through in my life could lead me to the best thing. I will be leaving snowy winters for warmer winters on the beach after Peanut graduates.

Any updates on anyone I might remember? I am terrible with names. Lady from MA with daughter who was sick, Katherine41, BasicGuy....I'm strugling to remember more.

Very happy, the rest doesn't matter anymore.

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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, November 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember!

(Missy's doing pretty good too:)

25 DDays 11/04 - 5/05. (Whew.)
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey lucie!!!!

I'm doing great! Married the greatest guy last year! Katherine41 was my maid of honor! Funny how you meet your best and lifelong friends here.

DD is 10! I can't believe she is is big. Now have a DSD, she is 8.

Life is pretty sweet. DH is in his last year of law school so things are hectic. Message me!

Anyone here from Moe? Nelm got married recently, looks very happy!

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Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, November 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Lucie,

How ironic. I was just thinking about you recently and wondered what happened to you and peanut.

I am glad you posted with an update! Glad to hear that you both are doing so well~~!!

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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, November 4th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Lucie!! Gosh peanut is a sophomore?!!
Nooooo LOL
I'm doing great, have a truly wonderful & happy life nine years out, and in that mix we have been blessed with THREE grandchildren! Two are living with us until Lucky daughter & son in law get transferred back home to here in Alaska.
Remember Savannah? She's in first grade now! Time truly flies.
So glad you checked in.

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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi, Lucie and all!

I am well and happy!

As you can see from Only's post, she and I keep in touch IRL and I was lucky enough to be with her on her wedding day.

Though I have not re-married, I have been in a relationship or so. With the economy, I've worked a lot as my company rapidly changed over a two-year period. So mostly, I've been married to work. Still, I've recently started a new relationship. I think Only approves of this one.

My children keep me very busy. I'm traveling more this year. I managed to save enough to buy a very small vacation home in a place I love, and I'll be there Thanksgiving.

The infidelity that ended my marriage is seldom in my thoughts. So hard to believe, given it never left my thoughts for so long. On that front? My WXH is still a narcissist . . . but has apologized to me in a meaningful way. In fact, he's now a Betrayed SO and truly de-fogged through the experience. He's sickened (as much as a narcissist can be) by what he did to our marriage, and though I recognize the tracks of the karma bus across his back, I don't relish it like I supposed.

With all the ups and downs, I can say I'm truly glad that my marriage ended. I'm proud of what I have accomplished. My family is wonderful. Life is good.

[This message edited by katherine41 at 12:00 AM, November 13th (Wednesday)]

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